I need some advice, I have a friend who has a good heart and is alovely person however I will admit that she makes some truly poor choices inregards to life. She seems to have been on the downward spiral since we gotback in touch 12 months ago and she comes to me for advice but never actuallyfollows through with anything we talk about despite her agreeing to her wantingto change.I love her and want to support her but I will admit that this hasbecome draining and is now borderline dangerous for my family due to the situationsshe puts me in. I recently invited her to a family dinner for my birthday at alocal pub with just a few friends involved. The celebration also involved usfinding out the gender of our baby so my husband and I kept this event quiteclose because it was a special moment for us. To be honest, I felt completelycornered when I looked up from talking to my mum to see that this friend ofmine had invited her ex-boyfriend (whom I don’t feel comfortable associating with)and a guy back from high school who used to be physically violent toward me. Ihad discussed with her in the past that it was her decision who she had in herlife but I had no intention of having these people in mine as I wanted nothingto do with them. I am married with my own friends and family but moreimportantly I don’t want to expose my baby to people who quite obviously arelose cannons and that I don’t trust. She got funny with me when I mentionedthat they were not invited and I refused to speak to them. She now has arranged with my husband that she will drop by during theweek for a catch up as we are home a lot which he said she is more than welcometo do. She mentioned this to me on the night also and told me that she would bebringing some guy she had started seeing (another one after goodness knows howmany). I tried to express to her that she is always welcome but my husband andI would prefer to meet her and her boyfriend out until we know him better. Again,she got very funny with me and then sent me a text later on in the evening tostate that her and her boyfriend would be around next week. I am guarded aboutwho knows where we live as my husband does work away from home and again we areabout to have a baby so I feel a bit vulnerable about exposing our lives tothis person. Notably she has admitted that he has previously done time in jail and isa recovering drug addict – previous boyfriends all have similar backgroundstoo. I have spoken to her time and time again about boundaries but its notgetting through…what do I do? I have tried to pull things back and see her lessin an effort to phase our friendship out a bit but she seems to suffocate mewhen she feels I am doing this by texting me all the time and turning up at ourhouse. Help!