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    Default Severe thumb sucking in 6year old

    DD6 has always sucked her thumb, ever since I stopped breastfeeding at 9 months. Everyone has always reassured me she will stop but that's not the case. It is getting to the point where she wants to stop but she just can't and she cries about it saying it's too hard to stop. When she tries really hard to not suck her thumb it makes her anxious and frustrated and I don't know what to do for her. Has anyone else gone through this? Have any advice or suggestions? TIA

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    Hugs to both of you. I went through this myself at age 8 and I was desperate to stop sucking my thumb. I remember making a deal with myself that I could still suck it at particular times (bed, daydreaming at home etc). If I found myself sucking it at other times I would notice it and take my thumb out. Worst thing I found was others giving me a hard time about it- my dad bought me a dummy (yep, he's an idiot). Fast forward and I am now 39 years old. I still suck my thumb. I don't care. It's a comfort thing occasionally, i'm a happy person and a great mum and thumb sucking is a small part of who I am. Please let your dd know that she will stop in her own time and she could try to be mindful of when she is doing it so she reduces any feelings of embarrassment. It comforts her and the more stressed she becomes the more she will do it.

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    Have you considered Hypnotherapy? You might be able to find a someone who specializes in dealing with children? My only advice sorry

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    My DD was a thumb sucker, but we were pretty keen to wean her of the habit since it interferes with proper oral posture and jaw development etc.

    Our dentist told us about these things: http://www.thumbguard.com.au/ which we were going to use, but in the end she stopped it herself through sheer determination. She has a lot of willpower for such a young kid though.

    Anyway, it sounds to me like your DD wants to stop and maybe the above product will help her. It won't be much fun for her for the first 24-48 hours, but from what I've read the worst is over by then. Just like breaking any habit I guess.

    Good luck to you and your DD.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    Hugs to both of you. I went through this myself at age 8 and I was desperate to stop sucking my thumb. I remember making a deal with myself that I could still suck it at particular times (bed, daydreaming at home etc). If I found myself sucking it at other times I would notice it and take my thumb out. Worst thing I found was others giving me a hard time about it- my dad bought me a dummy (yep, he's an idiot). Fast forward and I am now 39 years old. I still suck my thumb. I don't care. It's a comfort thing occasionally, i'm a happy person and a great mum and thumb sucking is a small part of who I am. Please let your dd know that she will stop in her own time and she could try to be mindful of when she is doing it so she reduces any feelings of embarrassment. It comforts her and the more stressed she becomes the more she will do it.
    This.

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    My parents tried every product under sun with me. I stopped the day I got married. It was like magic.

    With my dd the orthodontist recommend we leave her alone. She already had a massive overbite so it couldn't do any damage. She stopped 2 years ago when she got her double plates. Sadly the plates didn't work so she will be having surgery on her jaw.

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    BbBbBh thank you so much! You point of view will be so comforting to my daughter (and it is to me too). I hope that if it is simply too much for her she can accept an embrace it like you have. May I ask, have you managed to have it as a comfort thing that is rather private or do you still struggle with the subconsciousness of it all?
    As for the finger guard that was suggested I will definitely see if it is something my DD is willing or wanting to try.
    I'm so encouraged that other people are positive about it, I guess I have felt pressured into feeling it is not something she can ever do in adult life. I love the perspective of laying off an supporting her, perhaps even helping her find other things that reduce her stress that may naturally replace thumb sucking as she matures and grows.
    Thank you all!

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    Quote Originally Posted by soulmama View Post
    BbBbBh thank you so much! You point of view will be so comforting to my daughter (and it is to me too). I hope that if it is simply too much for her she can accept an embrace it like you have. May I ask, have you managed to have it as a comfort thing that is rather private or do you still struggle with the subconsciousness of it all?
    For me it is a comfort thing but I also do it when i'm concentrating so people have seen me do it at work. It doesn't bother me at all. The way I see it people have all sorts of comforts- hair twirling, tapping, over eating etc. I did tell a male colleague who commented on it once that i'd prefer my thumb sucking to the rearranging of testicles like some men do. Maybe letting your daughter know that this is a comfort for her for right now. It may not be like this forever. At her age though other kids might tease her so help her think of strategies to cope with that.


 

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