Hi, all. My partner and I have been living together 6 years now. He's divorced and has two children (7 & 8) that we share custody. He's not keen on the idea of getting Married again, and i respect that (he's been burnt before). But were pregnant and I'm struggling to work out what surname to give this child. I don't want to have a different surname to our child, as i think where we live it carries the stigma of either being a single mum or from a broken family, which i/we are not....(not that i'm judging that here, i'm just from a very small town that refuses to move into the modern times). I know he would like this child to have his surname, as its been a very bitter divorce and also a battle for his previous children to keep his surname after he and his wife divorced. But my concern is that if he really has no intention on ever getting legally married again, i sort of feel like this child should have my surname. If he ever decided to get married to me, i would happily change both my name and our childs to be his surname. But it feels like he wants all the perks of being married without the actual committment. I don't know...i'm probably over thinking this too much. I just know i don't want a different surname to our daughter. I'm happy to take his name and have our child take his name too, or if thats not something he wants, then i want this child to have my surname. I'm starting to worry though that i'm being just like ex wife by trying to deny his child his surname. I think his parents would also be offended if the child didn't take on his surname, and i get along with them great and don't want to ruin that. Not that they would say anything to me about this - they're not confrontational in any way, nor is my partner for that matter. We all get on lovely. We both have long surnames and wouldn't want to hyphenate these for our child. I'm really stuck on what is the right thing to do here, and time is running out. Has anyone else had this dilemma?