Colbie is right. The innocence is gone. It's very hard to look at things positively once you've had a miscarriage. Everything is tainted by that experience. I'm 33 weeks and just hoping everything continues to go OK until bubba comes out in 5 weeks.
Thinking of you! It's a very difficult thing to go through. It's certainly taken me awhile to feel like I'm moving forward. It's almost a year since I miscarried. I think next week will be a tough one remembering what DH and I went through at the same time last year.
@scubagirl hugs for you. My DH and I were so scared after my first miscarriage that we didn't tell ANYONE I was pregnant until the 6 month mark. Well, my boss and workmates knew, but family are distant enough that they didn't see me and we didn't want the drama. Thanks everyone for the kind words. Spotting is still going but it's light enough and the wrong colour for m/c. I'm trying to take it easy while still looking after my 3 year old. I spotted like this for 3 weeks when I was pregnant with him, so I keep telling myself that it was fine that time.
@ScubaGal so sorry you are going through this, hopefully you will join us here soon. It took us over 2 years to conceive our DD1 (endo and pcos) we did the ivf journey as well but I fell naturally after a lap before another cycle, I hope that you will get your sticky BFP very soon. It makes you feel so cheated after putting is so much cycling for this to happen to you.
We lost our DD2 at 20 weeks and I can honestly say that it makes your next pregnancy very stressful and anxious. It's a hard journey but at the same time you do need to embrace it and be positive. I'm only 20 weeks pregnant with this babe and it's been really hard but I have found a few things to ease my anxiety I see my OB twice a week for scans (I'm high risk) and I have a doppler I use at home for reassurance, just those little things help me but time drags and I do wish for it to be December and to have a healthy babe in my arms.
@Kwazii good to hear the spotting isn't worsening, I think you are doing the right thing by taking it easy. I had a huge bleed at 10.5weeks and spotting until 16 weeks.
AFM - I made it to 20 weeks! One milestone of this pregnancy reached. Bring on 24 weeks. I though I would feel more relieved than I do.
How is everyone else? I'm hanging out for the first lot of birth announcements! Not long for most of you, it's going to be very quiet in here soon.
As the others have said it certainly brings a different experience to pregnancy after a loss. Even though my miscarriage was early at 8 weeks, part of me has never relaxed the same with this pregnancy and I find myself looking forward to it being over.
French pear - I know that was something that surprised me, that passing the milestones from the miscarriage wasn't enough to relieve my anxiety. Small victories though, and every small step is one closer to babe in arms. I'm so happy for you to have gotten to your 20 week mark!
French Pear (08-08-2014)
I'm finding the last weeks are really dragging where as my last term pregnancy it didn't.
It's comforting you ladies understand because I feel like I'm putting on a face a bit for my family who don't get the feelings at all. I'm just really ready now to leave pregnancy behind me! Where before I wasn't sure if I would always wish for one more, I know I will not now!
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French Pear! Are you feeling baby move yet?
I'm 37+4 today. Feeling pretty good! Uncomfortable at night but nothing too much to complain about. Baby's movements are big! Getting so excited to meet her 💕
Wow you are getting so close! Are you going for a natural birth? I remember the waiting with DD1 to go into labour, it drove me crazy!
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