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    Default Giving up a night-time bottles "sleep prop"......what worked?

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    My 21 month old DD still has a bottle at night if she wakes, so of course she wakes every night for it..she now asks for it too. i know its my and DH fault that we didnt nip this in the bud earlier...we tried about 4 months ago to get her to give up her waking for a bottle using a "controlled comforting" method i guess you would call it (called Sleep and Settle)...we used it on a DS and it worked brillantly and he was sleeping through the night within 3 or 4 nights after we implemented it and hasnt looked back since. However...still after one month of using the same program she was still screaming for her bottle most nights and waking up, she cried so much she would wake up with a hoarse voice the next day! ..so we gave up as we were over it. Now we just keep putting it off as i cant bear the thought of going through it again...however i know she will not sleep through until she loses this "sleep prop".....but every time i think of doing it i feel anxious. she also does not eat solids well beacuse she drinks too much at night even with it watered down a lot! so its becoming an issue more than just sleep...

    so please does anyone have a method of stopping night waking for bottles / being fed to sleep situations? should i just try the same method again as i know it and im ok with doing some comforting and shusshing etc....any good books anyone can recommend for getting rid of "sleep props"? what worked for you?

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    Maybe going back in at incriminates just upsets her more. What is the longest you have left her? I would recommend leaving her as long as you can bear it.

    Another solution is to just give her water and slowly reduce the amount you give her so she gets used to drinking less. Or perhaps she will even just figure it's not worth crying for water and settle back to sleep


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    Have you tried giving her a smaller bottle every night? Like say she normally has 200mL, reduce it to 180, the next night, then 160, 140, 120, 100, 80, etc. talk to her about it each day, so she understands that she'll get a smaller bottle every night until the bottles are finished. Then I would consider giving her a sippy cup with a tiny amount of water in it to take to bed, just incase she's thirsty, but definitely tell her that bottles are all finished.

    Just an idea that may just get you through it without too many tears.

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    I'm not going to me much help, but my 3.5 year old DS was very similar... We tried a couple of times with not much success - it just felt very stressful on all involved... We have only 6 weeks ago FINALLY ditched the bottle - and it has been totally stress free so in hindsight I'm happy with how it panned out... We just explained that he was a big boy, and didn't need the bottle anymore and that since he was a big boy, when he was ready to ditch the bottle, we'd take him to the shop to trade his bottle for a much-wanted big boy toy (lego play set...) for the two weeks after it when he asked for his bottle we just reminded him we swapped it for he lego and he never really protested.. (In the past he would get hysterical!!!) I know it's not ideal but worked with us... I was really stressed about the impact of the milk on his teeth, so was very regular with dentists check ups, and he didn't really have any other sugar in his diet so it wasn't such an issue but it is something to consider.... Anyway as I said might not be useful but it's what worked for us... Good luck!!!

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    Cold turkey. No bottles at all. Not even before bed.

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    We're doing the same thing OP, DS is 2. I gave great plans of switching to water etc and then it's 4.48am and I know what will work so I cave and crawl back to bed. We leave him and he sometimes resettles and sometimes not. I'm really in the same spot as you so no help but nice to know I'm not alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Cold turkey. No bottles at all. Not even before bed.
    How long did it take? How long would you let protesting go on? How did you manage it?

    Lots of q's sorry!

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    How long did it take? How long would you let protesting go on? How did you manage it?

    Lots of q's sorry!
    DD1 was 2.5 and it took a couple of nights. I offered a cup before bed but she had no interest in it. She's 5.5 now and I don't remember it being that bad.

    DS was 18 months. It took 1 night. He woke maybe 3 times and I just gave him his dummy.

    I didn't want to go through this again with DD2. She's 12 months and I stopped bf and haven't offered cow's milk in a bottle.

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    We told our ds (around 2.5 at the time) that the shops were all out of milk and that we could put water in his bottle instead, or would he like to go without a bottle? He said yes to water and we never bought more formula. If he woke at night we'd offer a bottle of water. After a while he chewed big holes in the teats and didn't want to drink out of baby bottles again.

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    We give DS a sippy cup of water in his cot so it's there if he wakes up at night.

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