DF has always had trouble with stopping once he starts, a few beers with a boys turns in to a few cases of beers with the boys and I'm worried. He usually drinks BIL who has a drinking problem and I've told DF that I worry that he's enabling and encouraging him. DF works hard 6 nights a week to support us and almost always uses his only night off, a Friday, to get absolutely sh!t faced. Most of the time he's reasonably well behaved and I just leave him at BIL's and do my own thing. Sometimes though he gets angry and seeks out someone (usually a friend of BIL) to bully, he picks on and annoys them until they either crack it and they fight or they leave feeling like cr@p. If he's not angry he's usually doing something silly like doing burnouts in his mates driveway (which is stupidly encouraged by his mates). He ignores me and talks to everyone else as soon as he has a few beers in him and it makes me feel like cr@p, more than that I'm worried about what this binge drinking every week is doing to his body, I'm worried that he's making BIL's drinking problem worse and that they're doing it around our nephews who really don't need to be seeing their uncle off his face..
We've talked about my concerns before and he calms it down for a while but it seems to be on the rise again. I'm just lost, I've told him I won't tolerate this behavior once we have kids (I've just stopped taking the pill) and he's agreed he'll pull his head in. Do I just let him run amok and have a bit of fun before we have kids? He works hard and deserves to have a bit of fun on his day off, doesn't he? Sorry for the long post, I'm just a bit lost and not really sure what to do or how to approach this..