We have done the court orders before for dsd so I know it's a long process and I doubt it would get to court, we could sort something out in mediation.
In all honesty I'm concerned enough that I wouldn't leave bub alone with him even if we stayed together however if we seperate he will at some point have his son on his own.
This is my concern as I am now 110% certain that he would have no problem useing physical violence on his son, no regrets at all.
I feel very foolish admitting this as mostly I think I've turned a blind eye to some raging red flags.
I just want to be prepared mentally as I don't want to rely on his current lack of interest in the baby
Thank you that's very helpful
Thank you again
I was a single mum when my son was born, and although there were no abuse issues, I went through all that visitation stuff with a newborn. My son is now 17m and we have just sorted out custody orders!
My son was bf and my ex constantly complained that my bf was preventing him from quality extended time with the baby and frequently demanded I bottle feed or express. I just refused to bottle feed and its not recommended that you express in the first 6 weeks as this can create chaos with your supply. I then developed oversupply so it wasn't recommended I express anyway.
So for the first 6 weeks the ex only had visits with me present so I could bf when needed. Then he would have 2hr visits but return my son so he could be fed 3hourly. Then as his feeds decreased this slowly increased. His visits were every 2nd weekend
It's been a constant battle with the visits and him wanting more time with my son, but I have just stuck to my guns, safe in the knowledge that while bf, there is not much he can do!
Hope this helps?
These threads always make me feel a bit sick as I went through this with my newborn. I won't say much here but if you want to know how my situation turned out please feel free to PM.
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