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    Quote Originally Posted by HeavenBlue View Post
    I suspect she meant exclusively breast fed? I've noticed a lot of people saying their bubs are EBF when they are bf, not realising EBF really means expressed breast fed.
    Ah! Right! Sorry, I never thought of that acronym.

    Heartstringz, your emotional health is just as important as your bub sleeping, if you strongly feel that you oils cope better if you didn't have to be the only one who can feed him, perhaps persist with trying the bottle. Perhaps with expressed breast milk of you have a pump so he gets used to the bottle and your milk, them slowly add formula to each bottle until he's fully on formula.

    I'm only suggesting this as you've indicated you would be happier if someone else cold feed him whenever possible. If you're dead agains FF please ignore this advice.

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    Sorry yes I meant exclusively breastfed. Pumping is just too difficult at the moment, I barely get the time to do anything, let alone pump.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Sorry yes I meant exclusively breastfed. Pumping is just too difficult at the moment, I barely get the time to do anything, let alone pump.

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    What are your feelings on formula feeding or even mixed feeding?

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    I'm sorry your still having so much trouble hun.
    Just to put it out there. Please ignore it if you are not ready.
    Have you tried solid food? Avocado is a great first food for last minute no prep.
    It may just be time for your little one. Just a tea spoon one day and see how you go.
    It isn't a quick fix but you may find Bub a bit more settled in a week or 2 of starting solids.
    Hugs. I wish there was a magic fix for you.

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    A-squared im fine with mix feeding or formula.

    DueinAugust, we tried him on solids but he wouldnt eat any of it, just spat it all out, so I dont think he's ready yet. Will try again soon

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    I desperately need some advise if you ladies can help.

    Dd is 11 months and has always been a not so good sleeper but recently due to a massive change in circumstances I am now living with my parents whilst my partner and Sd are staying at my ILs, until the end of next month at least.

    Which leaves me sharing a room with Dd, at our old house she had her own room and obviously my partner was there so if we were having a particularly rough night with her then we would take turns in settling her etc.

    She seems easier to get to sleep at night (I just give her a cuddle and pat and she will fall asleep in my arms and then I'll put her in her bed) but a couple of hours later will wake up again and then I'll have to try and do the same thing but usually it's harder.

    Then in the middle of the night she will wake up for 2+ hours and the problem is I share a wall with my parents bedroom and they work full time, I do not want her crying to disturb their sleep at all so I do everything in my power to avoid it which leaves me awake for hours trying to shush a baby.

    She will no longer fall back asleep after a bottle, she will happily drink it and then get up wanting me to pick her up, she can't lay in my bed because she crawls around constantly, she won't lay in my arm and that patting doesn't work in the middle of the night for some reason.

    I'm honestly at a loss, when we had our own house if It got to the point that my partner and I were up for hours and exhausted we would let her cry and she would fall asleep ( I could tell the difference between her being tired and distressed, if she was distressed I would get her out) but that was if we were at our limits.

    She's always slept a lot worse at other people's houses and I've also been taking her to my ILs as well. So her routine in obviously out the window and add the fact she just learnt to walk, she's all over the place.

    Do I wait it out because of all the changes occurring or do I try and find a solution, I am a lot more exhausted then usual because I have to do it on my own.

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    I would think that with the change and learning to walk that it might be time to drop back the last nap of the day by half an hour. If she is up and awake in the middle of the night it could just be the thing.
    The only other suggestion I have is talk to your parents. If letting her cry for a few nights to settle in them see how they feel. You might be surprised at how much they will help.
    Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katey4 View Post
    I desperately need some advise if you ladies can help.

    Dd is 11 months and has always been a not so good sleeper but recently due to a massive change in circumstances I am now living with my parents whilst my partner and Sd are staying at my ILs, until the end of next month at least.

    Which leaves me sharing a room with Dd, at our old house she had her own room and obviously my partner was there so if we were having a particularly rough night with her then we would take turns in settling her etc.

    She seems easier to get to sleep at night (I just give her a cuddle and pat and she will fall asleep in my arms and then I'll put her in her bed) but a couple of hours later will wake up again and then I'll have to try and do the same thing but usually it's harder.

    Then in the middle of the night she will wake up for 2+ hours and the problem is I share a wall with my parents bedroom and they work full time, I do not want her crying to disturb their sleep at all so I do everything in my power to avoid it which leaves me awake for hours trying to shush a baby.

    She will no longer fall back asleep after a bottle, she will happily drink it and then get up wanting me to pick her up, she can't lay in my bed because she crawls around constantly, she won't lay in my arm and that patting doesn't work in the middle of the night for some reason.

    I'm honestly at a loss, when we had our own house if It got to the point that my partner and I were up for hours and exhausted we would let her cry and she would fall asleep ( I could tell the difference between her being tired and distressed, if she was distressed I would get her out) but that was if we were at our limits.

    She's always slept a lot worse at other people's houses and I've also been taking her to my ILs as well. So her routine in obviously out the window and add the fact she just learnt to walk, she's all over the place.

    Do I wait it out because of all the changes occurring or do I try and find a solution, I am a lot more exhausted then usual because I have to do it on my own.
    Hats off to you living with parents and away from hubby! That would send me nuts! Here are some tips for your consideration... (Keeping in mind you are in someone else's house and can't leave bub to make noise at all hours:

    1. Look at bubs day naps: too much sleep during the day or waking too late can lead to trouble sleeping at night.

    2. Does bub have a comforter eg teddy head? Use a comforter with bub regardless of whether bub sleeps in the pram, your bed, rocker, car etc.

    3. Always put pub to sleep where you intend bub to wake. Transporting bub to a different bed/place can lead to waking up once the heaviest part of sleep is over (eg after 5 hours).

    4. Put bub to bed drowsy but awake. Do not feed to sleep as this can lead to night waking (after the heaviest part of sleep is over bub will wake and think "what the... Where's that bottle/Boob?"). If you pat to sleep try to wind back the patting before bubs eyes close.

    5. Have 20 minutes active play after the night feed/before bed. This helps to break a sleep association between the night need and sleep which can negatively impact bubs ability to self settle ... Which in turn leads to night waking.

    6. Stick to a consistent bedtime routine even if you are at someone else's house. Eg dinner, bath, massage, feed, active play, book, bed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DueInAugust View Post
    I would think that with the change and learning to walk that it might be time to drop back the last nap of the day by half an hour. If she is up and awake in the middle of the night it could just be the thing.
    The only other suggestion I have is talk to your parents. If letting her cry for a few nights to settle in them see how they feel. You might be surprised at how much they will help.
    Good luck.
    She's all over the place with napping also, she might have 2 really small snaps or one big long one, I haven't honestly taken notice of how her night time sleep is depending on her naps because to be honest by bed time in a bit out of it, I think I will be conscious of watching her routine tonight though.

    If she's crying for a little bit they will feel bad I think and want to help which is great but then I feel guilty as its my responsibility.

    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Hats off to you living with parents and away from hubby! That would send me nuts! Here are some tips for your consideration... (Keeping in mind you are in someone else's house and can't leave bub to make noise at all hours:

    1. Look at bubs day naps: too much sleep during the day or waking too late can lead to trouble sleeping at night.

    2. Does bub have a comforter eg teddy head? Use a comforter with bub regardless of whether bub sleeps in the pram, your bed, rocker, car etc.

    3. Always put pub to sleep where you intend bub to wake. Transporting bub to a different bed/place can lead to waking up once the heaviest part of sleep is over (eg after 5 hours).

    4. Put bub to bed drowsy but awake. Do not feed to sleep as this can lead to night waking (after the heaviest part of sleep is over bub will wake and think "what the... Where's that bottle/Boob?"). If you pat to sleep try to wind back the patting before bubs eyes close.

    5. Have 20 minutes active play after the night feed/before bed. This helps to break a sleep association between the night need and sleep which can negatively impact bubs ability to self settle ... Which in turn leads to night waking.

    6. Stick to a consistent bedtime routine even if you are at someone else's house. Eg dinner, bath, massage, feed, active play, book, bed.
    Thanks Vicpark that is very helpful, I will try implement some of these suggestions tonight.

    She isn't really attached to anything when it comes to sleep, I had just started weaning her off her dummy before I moved here because she could take or leave it but it does comfort her I suppose. I don't know if it's good to associate that with sleep though in case she does get attached to it.

    I think I will be more stern about her falling asleep in her cot, it's right next to my bed and she did fall asleep in it today whilst I was sitting in the room.

    I think most of the problem is me, I get to a point of being very tired and just try and figure out the quickest way to get her to stay quiet/happy is. She's got all the makings to be a fantastic sleeper, I think she just loves her freedom and being able to explore, she doesn't particularly need anything or anyone to go to sleep it's just wether or not she's in the mood to give in and Close her eyes.

    I think I will start being more firm and consistent, keeping in mind all the changes we have gone through.

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    Well we had a much much better night. She fell asleep in her cot with me in my bed that's literally a step away from her, I didn't pay attention to her but I still in the room, shushing her every so often.

    She woke about 4 times but I didn't get her out of her cot, I just rolled over and ignored and she fell back asleep every time! About 4am she starting banging the cot and usually I would get her out because of fear of her waking my parents however I didn't and my mum knocked on the door and asked if I wanted her to take her as she was up but I said I'm just going to leave her and she fell back asleep till around 6.30-7, I can't believe it. Going to try and do the exact same thing tonight.

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