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    Quote Originally Posted by rainbow road View Post
    I want to throw myself off a roof. I am so sick to death of my 12month olds crappy crappy sleep. This is the second or third night in a row he's been awake for 2+ hours in the middle of the night.
    Edit: that sucks... I have responded in your thread.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katey4 View Post
    I have no advise @rainbowroad but you have my sympathy!

    Tonight was the first night in Dd's 10 months of life that I left her to cry herself to sleep. I now have a bad case of the mummy guilts and haven't slept because of it.

    She only has one day sleep which isn't really enough so by 6 she needs to be in bed, but lately she hasn't been falling asleep and has cried when put to bed until she falls asleep in her bouncer or in my arms at 8-9. Tonight I tried to get her to sleep for hours and hours, by 9.30 I was exhausted and just put her in her bed and walked away. She did end up falling asleep after not to long but I have never been able to leave her to cry before, I don't know what is what that made me allow myself to do it this time.

    I feel awful.
    Don't feel awful, sometimes we just have to walk away if nothing else you are doing is working. You will still be there in the morning to love her and nurture her and look after her. She will still love you in the morning.

    Believe it or not, some babies need to be left alone to fall asleep, other methods just make them more alert rather than calming and soothing them to sleep. Perhaps your bub is one of those babies.

    Hugs to you, I know you can't just turn off the guilty feeling you have, but know your DD will be okay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Don't feel awful, sometimes we just have to walk away if nothing else you are doing is working. You will still be there in the morning to love her and nurture her and look after her. She will still love you in the morning.

    Believe it or not, some babies need to be left alone to fall asleep, other methods just make them more alert rather than calming and soothing them to sleep. Perhaps your bub is one of those babies.

    Hugs to you, I know you can't just turn off the guilty feeling you have, but know your DD will be okay.
    Thank you makes me feel a little better.

    She ended up waking in the night and was up for hours, she got very over tired and when I eventually put her back in her bed thinking she would just cry for a few minutes again because nothing else was working she got hysterical, I went and got her and she vomited on me from crying . That was about 4.30 this morning.

    She woke up happy and back to her normal self but I'm exhausted!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katey4 View Post
    I have no advise @rainbowroad but you have my sympathy!

    Tonight was the first night in Dd's 10 months of life that I left her to cry herself to sleep. I now have a bad case of the mummy guilts and haven't slept because of it.

    She only has one day sleep which isn't really enough so by 6 she needs to be in bed, but lately she hasn't been falling asleep and has cried when put to bed until she falls asleep in her bouncer or in my arms at 8-9. Tonight I tried to get her to sleep for hours and hours, by 9.30 I was exhausted and just put her in her bed and walked away. She did end up falling asleep after not to long but I have never been able to leave her to cry before, I don't know what is what that made me allow myself to do it this time.

    I feel awful.
    Don't feel awful, my son is one who needs to be left alone to fall asleep. When we went to a day stay at sleep school, I was spending 40min+ at every sleep patting/rocking/whatever to try and get him to sleep, while he screamed and cried the whole time. The first sleep there, he cried for 20min (much less distressed than when I was "helping" him) and then by the second sleep, he grizzled for 5 min and went to sleep. He's now three and any attempts to help him get to sleep do not work!

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    Hes doing it to me again. Saw tired signs, did a wind down routine (rocked in rocking chair, dark low stimulus room, white noise, wrapped, sang a song) & then when I put him in his cot he started trying to play again. I patted & shushed & sang & banged the mattress but he kept trying to play until he just lost it & started SCREAMING.

    Now I cant get him down at all, anywhere.

    I guess he just wont sleep then, if thats what he wants.

    So over this. I thought I was doing everything right, consistantly etc, I just dont understand why it wont work

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Hes doing it to me again. Saw tired signs, did a wind down routine (rocked in rocking chair, dark low stimulus room, white noise, wrapped, sang a song) & then when I put him in his cot he started trying to play again. I patted & shushed & sang & banged the mattress but he kept trying to play until he just lost it & started SCREAMING.

    Now I cant get him down at all, anywhere.

    I guess he just wont sleep then, if thats what he wants.

    So over this. I thought I was doing everything right, consistantly etc, I just dont understand why it wont work

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    Try not to lose heart. My DD did the exact same thing and still does now at 14 months. She will be sleepy but then as soon as I put her down its like she's found a new burst of energy. As she's gotten older I've noticed that it seems to be relief that she's been put in her bed, if that makes sense? Maybe when you put him in his cot next time just put him down, such him and leave? I find that if I do that (and did that) dd will faff for a little and wriggle a bit then go to sleep. (And that's the same as she did when she was little) it turns out me staying and doing all the patting etc was just stopping her from sleeping and keeping her stimulated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Hes doing it to me again. Saw tired signs, did a wind down routine (rocked in rocking chair, dark low stimulus room, white noise, wrapped, sang a song) & then when I put him in his cot he started trying to play again. I patted & shushed & sang & banged the mattress but he kept trying to play until he just lost it & started SCREAMING.

    Now I cant get him down at all, anywhere.

    I guess he just wont sleep then, if thats what he wants.

    So over this. I thought I was doing everything right, consistantly etc, I just dont understand why it wont work

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    You poor thing

    Quite often by the time bub is displaying the obvious tired signs it is too late. By that point it's a rush against the clock to get bub to bed, so I would cut back on some of the routine you've got. Keep it very short ....1-3 minutes from when you notice the tired sign bub should be in bed. Nappy, swaddle, quick cuddle while signing then put bub down. It's possible that by having too much going on (song, white noise, patting, banging mattress etc) you're over stimulating bub. My first used to have a horrible witching period in the evening. I tried everything to get him to sleep, white noise, sleepy light shoes, singing. In the end it hit me: less is best. Within 3 nights if me cutting out the stimulation (including giving the night feed in front of the TV) the witching stopped.

    If you want a cheats way (which is what I did because I sucked at picking tired signs) look up average awake times for your bubs age. Then 15 minutes before that time is up out yourself on heightened alert for bubs tired signs/bed. If you want the extra cheats way (like me) look into a routine for your bubs weight/age and it can really help to take the guess work out of it. I understand routine is by for everyone though.

    Hang in there.

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    I'm exhausted.

    Hugo doesn't sleep well unless I'm on the bus, have the tv on or pushing the pram. This does not work for DD. I just want to cry actually I am crying on the bus.

    If I lay him down in his cot for more than 60 seconds he makes himself sick. He doesn't have reflux at all he just works himself up to point of this. Done chiro done osteo done everything. WHY WONT U SLEEP FOR ME. He won't even take a ****ING bottle. Or food.

    I'm so over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    I'm exhausted.

    Hugo doesn't sleep well unless I'm on the bus, have the tv on or pushing the pram. This does not work for DD. I just want to cry actually I am crying on the bus.

    If I lay him down in his cot for more than 60 seconds he makes himself sick. He doesn't have reflux at all he just works himself up to point of this. Done chiro done osteo done everything. WHY WONT U SLEEP FOR ME. He won't even take a ****ING bottle. Or food.

    I'm so over it.
    Hugs!

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    I'm exhausted.

    Hugo doesn't sleep well unless I'm on the bus, have the tv on or pushing the pram. This does not work for DD. I just want to cry actually I am crying on the bus.

    If I lay him down in his cot for more than 60 seconds he makes himself sick. He doesn't have reflux at all he just works himself up to point of this. Done chiro done osteo done everything. WHY WONT U SLEEP FOR ME. He won't even take a ****ING bottle. Or food.

    I'm so over it.
    Will he take a dummy? What about you @heartstringz?


 

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