Hugs @Nomsie. Our DDs do sound very similar! We can at least take comfort in the fact we are not the only one!!! Once I get to about four failed attempts (or an hour in length) at putting her down in her cot and my arms and back have had enough I use the buggy and push her back and forth in that. But feel like a total failure doing it. Like yours, she's asleep but springs awake crying when I try to put her down. Then wakes all night protesting I've left her.
While writing that I was feeding her to sleep and she bit me!!! The other boob is still painful from when it happened the other day and now both will hurt. Give me a break child!!!!