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[nnaagg]

Hi i dont know if this is the right area to post this and ill keep it short and sweet.....

My little boy is turning 2 next week and i dont know how to cope with his attitude. One minute he is very happy and in an instant he is pushing my buttons and whinging and throwing the worst tantrums. I feel like im loosing my marbles . How do you cope? Im 8 and a half months preg and i dont want to use it as an excuse cose i know id be the same either way....... I feel like running down the street and screaming sometimes .

Please any advice would be great....

[Roopee]

Welcome to the terrible two's. Its really hard i know but it will pass.
Try not to give in to his demands, stay strong and remember, "your the parent here".
When he's having a throw down tanty- walk away and ignore it. He'll soon get the hint that is not the way to go about getting the attention he might be wanting.
Remeber to always praise his good behaviour though- he'll soon get the hint.
Good Luck!

[filmgirlgail]

I know how you feel to you. All I can do is offer the same advice. Ensure he is safe and walk away and ignore him. Even if you just go and sit on the loo for 5 mins. My DD sometimes does her drama queen act and if she realises I can't see her, moves so I can, so I just move so I can't see her again and she soon gives up!

Good luck

[nnaagg]

Thankyou ladies.

How do you guys vent? Do you want to scream sometimes?

[reAllytee]

I was just about to post about this !!!!

I have a loveable, cuddly little bear one moment then a screaming, flailing, head pounding monster the next.
I get things thrown at me if he cant get his way or he stomps on my feet which sends me off the scale. I have to walk away otherwise id hurt him which i dont want to do !
Ive been rethinking the while idea of having 2 children at this point luckily we stopped TTC#2 a few weeks ago as my DP lost his job.

They certainly are hard work.

[caramella]

I know what you mean. My son will turn 2 in two weeks and he has gone from being the most placid, chilled out little dude to being the devil. And then he'll be an angel again. And then he's the devil.

It certainly is hard work! It's exhausting.

All the other mums are right. Do whatever you need to do to keep your cool and not get drawn in to his tantrums. I found the Super Nanny's 'naughty chair' technique really worked with my eldest son and I've just started using it for my youngest. It's something that works over a period of time - when you're consistent. You can call it the 'thinking chair' if you don't like the word naughty. But I know this approach isn't for everyone. I just found that it helped me to feel like I was doing something other than to smack (which was my initial urge) so I saw it as a big positive rather than a negative. And it does stop them from doing whatever it is they're doing and then when their time is up, then you can start playing with something else so as to distract them.

Venting? Bub hub is good! Playgroup is good as everyone can relate to what you're going through.

Good luck

[natasha]

My daughter will be 2 in January and we are having the exact same problems. She constantly cries and whinges if she doesnt get her own way. She throws about 20 huge tantrums a day, we just get over one and she throws another one.
I'm at a loss as to what works. I have just started to use time out but all it does is calm her down from her tantrum quicker, it doesnt seem to stop it or change her behaviour in any way.

I sometimes feel like screaming and running away. I just sit and cry sometimes becasue I find her so hard to cope with.
I guess it is just a stage, but i swear it is the hardest stage in my whole entire life.
Every day is a battle not to run away and never come back. She is clingy and whingey and demanding 24/7. She is never happy. If she catches herself enjoying something and I say 'this is nice isn't it?' she will scowl, scream and throw something at me.

She hates me praising her. She hates me cuddling her. She pushes me away and screams. I really cant wait till she gets older and this stage is over.

I really dont have any advice, im just gritting my teeth till its over.

[Gruzzlebub]

I agree that Playgroup is a great place to vent with other mums (as is Bubhub).

As for what to do - my DS1 is 3 and I ended up seeing a child psych to help me with him - for me, it was about rage control (I shouted too much). The change in DS1 has been short of amazing. And it's because I learnt to change.

The most important thing I learnt was that this is only a stage - it won't last forever. I learnt to cope with his "problem" behaviour by focussing on his good behaviour - the "bad" behaviour went away. With my DS1, he was playing up because he was jealous of DS2. The praise and positive parenting techniques seem to work better with slightly older children (eg 3). I also found that DS's behaviour was remarkably better when we eliminated food preservatives and additives from his diet. He changed from a monster to a much more normal, noisy boisterous 3 yr old.

Hope some of these things help. Hang in there.


xx

[PinkBinkie]

It is hard to cope somedays, especially when dd wakes up naughty it seems and nothing seems to please her

At least we know we're not alone . My friend and I were talking today about how it seems sometimes that no one else is struggling with motherhood, that each day is rosey and their child could do no wrong. That's why I find bubhub so great as everyone seems honest and will admit that not everyday is a walk in the park.

We all love our kids but somedays they really know how to push your buttons

[wattle]

The constant whinging..aaaaaaaagh, the tantys, the neediness..aaagh. It's doubly difficult being pregnant too.

Removing preservatives and sugar made a big difference to ds (he's still challenging though), so that might be a good place to start. Also I use the distraction technique alot "oh is that daddy home" or "is that an aeroplane" or "lets read a book together" just as he's winding up. Doesn't always work, but it's good when it does.

I find going outside for a breath of fresh air helps too.