We made the decision we wouldn't tell anyone until after our NT scan, which is not until the 17th. However, I've been very sick and have had to bail out of numerous social events, which is fairly obvious during this time of year. I don't even care if people have worked it out - I just don't want to celebrate until that 12wk scan. Once we're past that point, I'm happy for the world to know! But it's pretty hard for someone to not say "congrats!" and be excited when you tell them you're pregnant so we are keeping it to ourselves for now.
My problem is that a few of my close friends have point blank asked me if I'm pregnant. I have already told them before that we won't tell until 12wks. I find it very disrespectful that they are asking me outright! If I want you to know, I will tell you!!! I told myself I would do my very best not to lie at all, but finally with one friend, I had to say "no, I'm not" yesterday. Another friend remembered when my last period was and said "surely you would know by now if you were or weren't!". WTF?!
I guess part of it is that I was open that we were trying. Maybe I shouldn't have been so honest, or they wouldn't be suspicious. But I thought that would make it easier - I was already cutting back on alcohol and coffee in prep for us trying, so I felt like they wouldn't notice the difference when I actually was pregnant.
Anyhow... how do I respond to this?! I have almost three more weeks to get through. And it's really starting to upset me!