I'm my 14yrs of experience...you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't! No matter what you do there will always be someone with judgement. And ppl wonder why PND is getting more and more common. My 3rd, 4th and 5th babies....I learned to stay at home and keep my bussiness to myself. Not even family were supportive, PND to mine and dh's family is 'rubbish'. Pfffttt is what dh's mother said to me after telling me her husband's 6 sisters helped her....I have no one. Yep...I have certainly learned its best to stay locked up in my own privacy than to be judged by ppl.