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    $100 for close friends or family $50 for not so close friends or if only one of us attend.

    For our wedding we had most things already but still did a gift registry as know so many hate the money poems (us included)

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    This is why I detest wishing wells, people always feel obliged to put in more than they can afford.

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    Put in what you can afford or what you would have spent on a gift. Real friends will be grateful for anything you give as its the thought that counts

    For us it would be $50, even for close friends as thats what we can afford.

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    Id give $50 perperson. Personally I prefer wishing wells, I suck at gift giving, so giving money makes it less stressful for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clementine Grace View Post
    This is why I detest wishing wells, people always feel obliged to put in more than they can afford.
    This is exactly how I feel. Dp thinks $300 is appropriate :O I would prefer $100to $150 max we can ill afford forking out obscene amounts of money and I certainly wouldn't go anywhere for a meal if it cost us $300!

    Think since I will be the one writing the card I will decide what to put in it.

    ♥him & me = ds 17/9/2013♥

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    Silly thought here but if you're worried about seeming like a tight @$$ don't put money in with a card. Like pp they won't be counting it thinking who gave what and give what you can afford or find out what thing they'd love but wouldn't buy for themselves.

    I'm beginning to wonder if I was the only kind bride who provided envelopes for our well and a well that would not accommodate a standard card sized envelope?

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    Min of $100 per couple IMO but personally have normally given 150

    Since they bring tight arses and getting married on a Thursday I would stick to &100 in this case

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    Quote Originally Posted by LamaBana82 View Post
    This is exactly how I feel. Dp thinks $300 is appropriate :O I would prefer $100to $150 max we can ill afford forking out obscene amounts of money and I certainly wouldn't go anywhere for a meal if it cost us $300!

    Think since I will be the one writing the card I will decide what to put in it.

    ♥him & me = ds 17/9/2013♥
    I just don't get being invited to a wedding where you are basically asked to cover the cost of the meal. I'd go with $150 max!

    OP I'd buck the trend and get them a decent bottle of champers to enjoy in their new home rather than cold, hard cash

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    We have been invited to a destination wedding in early 2014 and instead of a gift or wishing well they have asked guests to cover the cost of the reception dinner/drinks which is $150 per person.
    Even if we were going to get them a gift or wishing well I wouldn't be giving them $300 so hence we are not attending.
    That is on too of the flights, accommodation etc.
    The hens night is looking close to $250 for me to attend a few weeks prior to the wedding and it is a shame that my DH is working that day so I can't attend that either. That $250 was to cover lunch at a restaurant, drinks, nibbles, entertainment (stripper) and club entry and a hotel for the night.
    I am pregnant so no drinking and I am vegetarian so the vegetarian meals are usually cheaper. This is one very demanding bride...they have recently purchased their second house, new car, and just spent 6 weeks overseas!!! Sorry but I am not paying for your wedding! Sorry OP, rant over!

    Usually we give $100, but for our very close friends we give $200.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kiwimum890 View Post
    We have been invited to a destination wedding in early 2014 and instead of a gift or wishing well they have asked guests to cover the cost of the reception dinner/drinks which is $150 per person.
    Even if we were going to get them a gift or wishing well I wouldn't be giving them $300 so hence we are not attending.
    That is on too of the flights, accommodation etc.
    The hens night is looking close to $250 for me to attend a few weeks prior to the wedding and it is a shame that my DH is working that day so I can't attend that either. That $250 was to cover lunch at a restaurant, drinks, nibbles, entertainment (stripper) and club entry and a hotel for the night.
    I am pregnant so no drinking and I am vegetarian so the vegetarian meals are usually cheaper. This is one very demanding bride...they have recently purchased their second house, new car, and just spent 6 weeks overseas!!! Sorry but I am not paying for your wedding! Sorry OP, rant over!

    Usually we give $100, but for our very close friends we give $200.
    It's easy to have a destination wedding if you don't have to pay for it!... I don't understand that either.

    I detest people asking for money at weddings, let people give what they want or just say no gifts and leave it at that. That's just me though. I also haaaate those stupid cutesy poems with the invite. Why not just say give us the cash. End rant too

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