Mystique; I just wanted to send you some hugs and tell you I think you are brave coming on here and being honest. Even though this is an 'anonymous' forum to do it on, it still doesn't shield you from the backlash of other posters. And I'm sure you knew you would get some responses that we're going to be pretty blunt.
Without knowing if finances, siblings, family members will play apart in your decision; I think the biggest question you need to work out is if "you" want this baby regardless of which man stays in your life. There's no guarantees (neither with marriages that are 10 years old, etc) that there will be any man after the pregnancy comes out, if the baby is born, etc.
I suppose the grey area is if you do actually end up with either of these guys long term and you've (possibly) terminated their baby.
(By the sounds of it) it doesn't sound like you would be comfortable with yourself terminating "just in case a relationship with guy 1 happens / it ruins things with guy 1".
What would be your "ideal" outcome, right now?
Do you think the relationship with guy 1 will be irreparable if he knew you slept with someone so soon before sleeping with him?
DH (34) Me (30)
DS1 (8) * DS2 (4)
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