This is my 2nd post on this forum, I really needed to get some objective opinions and advice on what to do with my situation going forward. It is really bad, I've been an idiot.
I've just found out I'm pregnant.
I have been seeing someone for the past 12 months. We are both separated with kids. Our relationship is really all about enjoying each other, there's no real commitment or anything like that. Infact, we are quite open and have both seen other people during this time.
So here lies the problem. Not only am I pregnant, but I am not 100% certain who the father is. I am about 95% sure that it is the person mentioned above. The problem is I was with someone else also.
It's probably a bit of a stretch right? I'm thinking it's the guy that I've been seeing, but I still can't rule out the 2nd guy. Opinions please?!
Now the 2nd guy knows what is going on. He knows about the guy that I am seeing, and he knows about the pregnancy.
The guy that I have been seeing for the past 12 months, does not know yet. And I do not want to tell him about the 2nd guy. I love him, but it's complicated.
I have absolutely no idea what I am going to do? Assuming the baby is the guy whom I've been seeing, our relationship is not really in the right place for a baby. We have other children to think about. Financial, lifestyle issues to think about. The issue of paternity is weighing heavily on me and I feel forced into making a decision I may not otherwise have made, to terminate the pregnancy.
If I were to go ahead with the pregnancy I would have to have a prenatal paternity test done for my own piece of mind, and they are expensive!!! I have spoken to guy number 2 about this already, which he is happy to do.
I also have to face telling the guy that I've been seeing that I am pregnant and I'm worried it's going to ruin everything! I am expecting him to totally shut down.
I'm sorry this is long. Obviously I have been an idiot but I really need some advice. Thank you.