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    Default Giving it back to a cyber bully?

    I just read this article. What does everyone think about what the mother did?

    My first gut feeling was that the mother must not be too bright herself.
    - should her own kid 12/13? Even have a Facebook account?
    - why couldn't she just tell her kid to 'block' the bully?
    - did her kid do anything nasty towards the other girl? - no mention of this but if other kids are calling her kid a biatch could there be something to it?
    - kids don't have the maturity to handle tense situations appropriately. It's up to the adults to show them the way. And all this parent did is to basically bully a 12 year old child that bullied her kid. Pot meet kettle... Dumbass.

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    I don't agree with what the mother did. I think it's an opportunity to talk to get daughter about dealing with bullies/mean comments, especially online. Doing what she did just sends the message that it's ok to put that stuff on social media.

    It would have been more appropriate to contact the other girl's parents if she felt it was necessary.

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    Mm. I kind of agree with naming and shaming bullies, tbh. In Tasmania, a friend if mines girlfriend killed herself due to cyber bullying and the schools and bullies parents sweeping it under the rug and not dealing with it appropriately. It's too easy to get away with it online because it's so easy to delete content.

    As a result there's now a petition in Tasmania to introduce a law, which holds bullies accountable by law if their bullying leads to someone killing themselves.

    Perhaps this mum didn't want that to happen to her daughter and so dealt with it?

    If the girl being bullied did something to be called a b1tch for, then the girl should just call her a b1tch and get on with it, rather than trying to engage large groups of people to "assist" in confirmation of the girl being a b1tch. There's never an excuse for this kind of crap and people should be held more accountable for what they do, whether on or offline.

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    I don't think cyber bullying cyber bullies will stop them cyber bullying iykwim. By engaging in the same behaviour this mother has validated this method of airing grievances.
    Why not address it with the parents and child and school?
    You have to be 13 to have Facebook. I think parents should have full access and monitor their kids accounts, frankly.

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    Perhaps this mother could have used this as an opportunity to lead by example. Not the way I would deal with it.

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    I read it as though the mother put it on HER Facebook page not the daughter's.

    I'm not sure what instagrams rules on age are.

    If you write something publicly like that then I think you should be called out on it.

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    I watched the morning shows bring psychologists to comment on this and I disagreed with all of them. LOL I often wonder what planet they live on.

    I believe in naming and shaming. I have seen it happen and I have watched it work in bringing the bully to heel and force that bully to be responsible for their actions. I have also watched it put a student body on notice that such behaviour will not be tolerated. Silence, in cases such as this, is not golden.

    However, as other people have raised, why a child is allowed to have a Facebook account just boggles my mind. The same applies to allowing a child to have a computer in their room.

    Another aspect to this story that bothers me is that I understand that the mother went on to write further things about the bully and encouraged others not to like her. That, to me, is a gross misuse of power not to mention immature and I think she overstepped the boundaries there.

    But if someone did this to my child? Hell yes if I did not get any joy from the school or the bully's parents, I would name and shame.

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    *mentions suicide*

    Quote Originally Posted by Jennaisme View Post
    Mm. I kind of agree with naming and shaming bullies, tbh. In Tasmania, a friend if mines girlfriend killed herself due to cyber bullying and the schools and bullies parents sweeping it under the rug and not dealing with it appropriately. It's too easy to get away with it online because it's so easy to delete content.
    I take it you mean Chloe? Im in Hobart and also have a 14 yr old daughter, and am truly disgusted at how this was dealt with. Chloes tormentors are nasty, vindictive little b1tches and I do not say that lightly considering I have a teen. Not only were they never named and shamed, but they continued their vile comments on facebook AFTER Chloe committed suicide. The school has never taken any action in regards to bullying, let alone dealing with this matter.
    I know alot of people will disagree with me but I do believe that these sort of circumstances justify naming and shaming.
    Last edited by mamaof4; 07-01-2014 at 11:17.

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    Name & shame, yes. However, I do think it's inappropriate to then torment the bully. You can show others what they have done without name calling & encouraging others to dislike them.

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    Sorry, forgot to add a couple of things as have grumpy baby on my lap lol
    *mentions suicide*

    Jennaisme, Im sorry for your friend as they must feel like justice hasn't been achieved in that case. I hope our useless Tas government will actually do something for once and pass Chloes law.

    I know that retaliation rarely achieves anything but naming and shaming these bullies surely has to make them aware even slightly how it feels to be publicly humiliated? I know kids can be nasty, and I wouldnt do this for a once/twice off comment, but if it were my 14yr old DD being continually bullied via social media than yes, I would consider naming the culprits. Sure, it may not change anything, but perhaps them having their names and their behaviour made public may in some cases make them think twice before posting.

    There are simply not tough enough punishments for bullies as some kids couldnt care less about the usual school punishments Ive seen here such as detention or suspension. However, most teens (especially girls) DO care about how they are viewed by their peers. Embarrasment in being named and shamed publicly may just stop some of them before it gets to the point that Chloe was at. Like I mentioned in my pp, Chloes tormentors continued their vile behaviour online even after she committed suicide, so they are still effectively bullying her family, with no remorse.


 

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