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    Hi all.

    I don't know why I am on here. Anonymous and someone to chat to I guess. I just want to see if anyone is in my boat as me.

    I'm married with a 21 month old beautiful girl. When she was 2 months old, we had to move in with my parents as I wasn't earning enough money on mat leave. We are still with my parents and although I love it, I need my own space. I've been back working full time since little one was 6 months old and I'm okay with that. It's the husband that annoys me.
    He does nothing to help with housework. Maybe the odd washing here and there. Taking bins out etc. but I feel that when I need to do housework, he looks after little one, and always finds an excuse for me to be interrupted. It's just not a team effort. He always wants to watch sport or hang with his friends and the minute I say, I'm going out, I feel he always tries to do one better and go out the next weekend and get **** faced. My going out has completely stopped since having a baby. It's what you do. But with him, not the case.
    I've tried talking to him but he is so defensive. It's like talking to a brick wall. I want to punch him. HE makes me angry. I feel like I'm nagging all the time. I'm beginning to feel like his mother! And his mother doesn't do anything anyway.
    We will have our own place in 2 months ( thank God) but I'm starting to resent him. I'm always angry, he knows this.
    Tonight is the final straw. He has come back drunk and inebriated. Argh. I just don't know what to do.

    He wants another baby. Like hell!!! He works long hours and I have to do the drop off and pick up as it is. With two? Poor child!

    He loves his daughter so much. But is it enough when he won't change his ways? Having a child is a HUGE life commitment. I'm not asking for the world. Just some fairness and help around the house!!!

    Can anyone relate?!

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    It's so hard isn't it Excitedmummy? You are stuck. Stuck because you don't want your child growing up with what you had. That's my mentality anyway.

    Are u ok?

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    Try not to judge your hubby and hold a grudge until you are in your own place.

    Living with inlaws is unnatural... Living with inlaws when you have a newborn .... Bleeping horrid. I would probably want to go out with my friends and get drunk all the time too.

    Hopefully when you and hubby have your own place things will settle down and your hubby will find his mojo.

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    hi zb24, I just think from reading your post, the words you are using are pretty serious. Resenting him, anger, wanting to punch him, nagging him all the time, feel like his mother, all that comes from your heart. He needs to see the strength of your feelings. This is no happy household. Maybe when you are on your own, you and he might sort things out, but for now, this all feels like a war zone. I put the drinking into a whole other basket of troubles too. Whatever you do, don't have another baby until all this mess is sorted. hugs, Marie.


 

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