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    Default Co sleeping guilt

    What is with people making you feel guilty about Co sleeping? We are at mum and dads over Christmas and ds who is 10 weeks old and has Co slept with me since birth is still in bed with me and dh in separate room. Well of course mum and dad have to have their opinion on this and keep saying I HAVE to start putting him in a cot, its too dangerous, not normal, will be so hard to ever get him to sleep alone, I'm spoiling him etc.
    Grrr. I have tried telling them that its easier while breastfeeding and I take all the precautions (no blankets on the bed, dh in another room, even have the snuza breathing monitor that's on his nappy).
    They don't care and insist on making me feel guilty about sids! I know I shouldn't worry about others opinions and do what works for me. Just frustrating!! Spose I just needed to vent lol

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    I know what you mean. DS slept in our room and part time co-slept until he was almost 2. Even now at almost 4 he still comes in some nights. DD (8mths) goes to sleep in her cot in our room but comes in with us through the night. I have found that you can provide statistics, facts, your feelings etc...but when it boils down to it sometimes you are best to say "I appreciate your concern and opinion, but we have chosen to do things this way and we are comfortable with that and its not up for discussion or negotiation"

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    Not normal? What do they think people did before cots were widely available/utilised. Having your child close by and feeding them on demand is totally normal. Tell them to educate themselves or keep their opinions to themselves.

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    Meh, I couldn't care what ppl say. Just don't tell ppl, it's not their bussiness anyway.

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    I'm not a co-sleeper but wish I was when staying at family or friends - as I hardly sleep, jumping up at every sound making sure they don't wake the house.
    I'm sure they'd think differently if their sleep was disrupted.
    I learnt to nod and smile but ignore any advice given to me.
    You are the mum and you know what's best for you and your baby x

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    I find myself lying to people to avoid having their opinions forced on me. DD is 4.5 months old and we co sleep because it just worked out that way and feels natural. We're staying at my in laws on boxing day and I'm hoping they don't say anything, I really can't be bothered having to justify myself!

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    People are annoying. I can't believe they don't think it rude to comment on such a personal decision! Just reply "mother knows best" and leave it at that


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    Co slept with my boy until he was 5 months and moved him to the cot where for us we all got much more sleep including him and DH was in another bed. Do what ever works for you and your family. Mine would also tell me I was making a rod for my back bla bla bla but they are only little for a fraction of time enjoy all those cuddles

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    Firstly - I'm totally ok with your decision to co sleep.

    But I'm having the complete opposite problem! We CC or CIO when DD won't settle from an immediate hug (obviously checking bum etc first) and we don't co sleep because DD just DOESN'T sleep when she's in bed with us (party time!). Mum can't believe I would put her down crying, even though time and again she stops within 3 mins.

    Makes night time hard while we are visiting - she wakes, sees us in the room and wants to play.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cakeish View Post
    Firstly - I'm totally ok with your decision to co sleep.

    But I'm having the complete opposite problem! We CC or CIO when DD won't settle from an immediate hug (obviously checking bum etc first) and we don't co sleep because DD just DOESN'T sleep when she's in bed with us (party time!). Mum can't believe I would put her down crying, even though time and again she stops within 3 mins.

    Makes night time hard while we are visiting - she wakes, sees us in the room and wants to play.
    What if you turned the lights off and pretend to be asleep...would she eventually go to sleep? I play Pink Floyd's -shine on you crazy diamond....it goes for 13 minutes and it's so calming. I also have a few other of PF's mellow songs on my 'bedtime' playlist.

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