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    Default How do you cope...

    After a stillbirth and/or medically necessary termination?

    We lost our beautiful girl at 19weeks and 5days recently. It was due to suspected PROM (premature rupture of membranes) and this caused there to be no amniotic fluid surrounding our daughter.

    I was induced and gave birth.

    It's still so raw but I just can't see how I will be able to move on from this.

    Anyone else been through something similar that can help me to cope?

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    I am so very sorry for your loss... I have had a lot of miscarriages in the past and by number 5 I was put in touch with SANDS ( www.sands.org.au) they were so helpful and im sure they will be able to help you as well. Please take your time and know that there is help out there. xxx

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    Im so sorry for the loss of your daughter. My heart breaks for you and your family. I know exactly how u feel. I lost my daughter at 24 weeks 10 yrs ago. I couldnt cope and had a break down a few months later. It took me a few years and lots of therapy to begin to heal but part of my heart is still missing and broken. SANDS helped me a great deal and their support was amazing. For me its not something i will ever get over but you do in time learn to live again. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more.


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    French pear I'm so terribly sorry for your loss :-(
    I lost my first little girl at 24 weeks, it's the worst possible pain.
    If you want to chat please send me a pm.
    Thinking of you xx

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    French Pear. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. It might seem like it's not possible right now, but the grieving does get easier. I guess in a way, you learn to live with it always in your heart.

    Xx


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    I'm so sorry that others have had to go through this.

    Iis so heartbreaking and unfair.

    I also feel so guilty. That I failed my daughter. Is that something you felt as well?

    xx

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    You cant beat your self up. I felt guilty for years. Guilty that i shouldnt have vacuumed that day, that i should have rested more and most of all that my body couldnt keep her alive. I learnt that no matter what i would have done it wouldnt have helped and that i have nothing to feel guilty about but that took me a long time to come to that. Xx


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    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby girl xoxo
    My daughter was still born @ 24 weeks in March and 9 months on I still have bad days, but there are many more good days between them than there used to be.
    She will always be your baby girl and you did nothing wrong. Be very kind to yourself xox

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    I'm so sorry for your loss, you are not alone and yes things will get better.
    We lost our daughter too at 20 weeks, I was induced and gave birth. At the beginning it was so difficult and we both (DH and I) grieved, there were lots of tears and sadness but it was part of the process.
    Now we talk about her without crying and we can remember her.
    You take all the time you need, cry and be sad, do whatever feels right write a diary for her or lock away her memories to look at later... whatever you need and with time you will feel better.

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    Sorry for the loss of your baby. My son was stillborn at 27weeks 5 weeks ago. I shut down emotionally after his service and I am now seeing a psychologist to help me through the grieving process. The guilt & what ifs are very normal but horrible.

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