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    Default I can't do this for 6 WEEKS!!!!!!

    DD 5y and DS 4G are DOING MY HEAD IN!!!!! It feels like I battle with them every single second. They fight non stop and I'm always telling them off or yelling at them. With school holidays on I have all three kids 2 full days and I just don't know how I can do this. They wake up the baby. DS does things for the response. They bicker all day long. It's bringing out the worst in me as a mother. They just think I'm grumpy and when I actually asked DD why they are so naughty for me and not daddy she replied ' we don't play your game '. I try and be assertive with timeouts but just getting them there can take 15 minutes. If I have to drag or carry them it kills me back ( I have a ruptured disk),if I try and make them they scream and wake up the baby. Everything is a battle or a fight and and I just don't have any more patience left in me for it. 0
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    You're not alone I think all mums get like this during school holidays. I for one think these holidays are far too long for kids they are more suited to having routines daily/weekly and I know mine act out if their routines are changed.

    No advice just loads of sympathy and understanding

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    My two girls (5.5 and 4) have been surprisingly good these holidays. We 'be already had 3 weeks and have another 5 to go. But we've got a nice routine happening. Go out every 2nd day and in the days at home they play outside for the morning and late afternoon when it's not too hot, quiet time between 11 and 1 when DS (2) is sleeping, so either movie or time to play with little toys (Lego, etc) and then other inside play at other times. I have them doing chores each day- just making their own beds, keeping their rooms tidy, helping unstuck the dishwasher and put clothes away, picking up toys, etc.
    we also have set times for morning and afternoon tea and lunch. I really find having a fairly solid routine helps. I've written down all the different activities they can do and toys they can play with so we don't get the "I'm bored" cries constantly. I also make sure DD2 gets some time by herself because if she doesn't she can get crazy feral!

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    Sorry to hear that. I think a lot of parents feel the same way.
    Perhaps you could try different parenting techniques such as on super nanny? Some children don't respond well to timeout and it seems crazy for you to drag them there with your back problems.
    Whatever you decide the best advice I can give is to stick to your rules, consequences and rewards. Most children need routine and even if yours differs from your partner, they will eventually learn to respect it if you stick to the same set of rules etc.
    I'm happy to give you some more pointers if you would like, but please keep in mind I can't promise it will work. Everyone is different and kids are different too.
    Good luck and I really hope it gets better.

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    I'm definitely hearing ya!!

    Here's what I do to make them bearable/more enjoyable: plan, plan, plan!! Sit down & work out your budget for the holidays, then plan activities around your budget and bubs sleeps.

    I would discuss with the kidlets what your thinking of doing & what needs to happen to get it done (ie. behavior, helping with chores etc). I also plan to cook when my bub is asleep, this is a fun activity for my DD & it keeps her occupied.

    And for some strange reason I find the kids are better behaved after Chrissy, maybe the excitement gets them all hyped up.

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    I hear ya! The boys are 7.5 and 4.5. They can be best friends and then turn into little poo heads!!!

    It does my head in. Add to that ds1 has adopted a 'charming' attitude lately

    I'm thinking of making an advent style calendar to count down till school starts. But only I can do it and eat the chocolate

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    Uh yup... 5.5yr old,3.5yr old with SPD (so a major handful on his own most of the time) and 6 month old who just started crawling... im slowly going insane I have them all day every day as none of them go to care etc. Im hanging out for xmas eve when we'll have DH home for 2 weeks.

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    You poor thing. I'd have a mental break down if DH worked away. I almost do if he's late home from work . I'm on meds for depress and anxiety. I'm thinking I need to increase the dose.

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    If timeout is not working for you, ditch it.

    Do you have an outside space that is safe for them to play in? I find my kids get cabin fever if they are inside too much. Even just half an hour running around with bubble sticks seems to clear some of the negativity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CleverClogs View Post
    You poor thing. I'd have a mental break down if DH worked away. I almost do if he's late home from work . I'm on meds for depress and anxiety. I'm thinking I need to increase the dose.

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    Oh he doesn't work away just loooooong hours 6 days a week at the moment (leaves at 4am, home at around 6pm) but he has holidays over xmas thank god.

    I wish I had words of advice, but im struggling too! I love the lack of school runs but hate the constant fighting yet they refuse to play alone.

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