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    I would feel a little upset, but I'd hopefully acknowledge that it wouldn't be fair to be upset with them at all. After all, it's AWFUL when you're friends with a couple who splits... you're not sure what you're supposed to do, you don't want to upset either party, but you certainly don't want to be forced to choose between them!

    So I'd just go have some wine, watch a movie and have a bit of a sook... and that's it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cluckcluck View Post
    I have this situation but the friend is actually my twin sister and her husband.
    If someone did this to my sister. Oh my lord.. they wouldn't even dare try to keep any kind of friendship with me. No matter how good a friend they'd been while they were married. Hurt my younger sister...then look out!

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    I would feel like $hit OP. Times like these you need people around you who are 100% with you. You can probably count these people on one hand

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    I would initially feel gutted ... but then hopefully my head would start to overrule my heart.

    There are two sides to every story and perhaps your mutual friends see all angles and don't hold grudges. Perhaps they are being polite to your ex as to be nasty wouldn't accomplish anything and would make things more difficult for you and your bubba.

    Don't hold a dinner against your friend or ex. Embrace the fact that your ex is involved in your daughter life and focus on what you can do to help improve your daughters relationship with her dad.

    Grab a bottle of wine, sit back, relax and enjoy your singledom.

    Good luck..

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    Having been on both sides (though not through divorce), I can acknowledge it's hard for both parties.

    Many of my friends maintained a relationship with my ex & it hurt because I knew they would be having fun together etc & I was the heart broken one that could no longer be a part of any of that.

    But as the friend, I don't think it's fair to have to take sides unless one person has been especially cruel? Sometimes people fall out of love, and as the friend, I would want both people to eventually find happiness & if that couldn't be together then so be it.

    I don't know your circumstances, but break ups aren't always due to someone being a bad person that should be ostracised.

    Hang in there OP, only time really heals in these situations.

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    Honestly, while in my head I'd say "oh well, they were his friends too", but in my heart I'd be so so upset that they can still be his friend after he broke my heart. My rational self would think its great they are big enough not to take sides, my irrational self would want them to hate his guts and tell me what an AR$3 they think he is.

    Big hugs OP, I imagine you are hurting lot right now. xx


 

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