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    Default How would you feel?

    So...

    My husband left me in September after 9 years of marriage with a then 13 week old baby. I've had to move out of the family home and decided to make a 2 hour trek to a new location to start a new life and live around the corner from my very best friend (along with many others issues and complications).

    Thing is, they are also his best friends too as you would expect after 9 years together and an equally long friendship. I am at home with my baby (around the corner) while he is over their house at the moment having dinner and spending the evening as he plans on spending some time with our daughter tomorrow.

    How would you feel?

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    Awkward.
    But the thing is, they are still his friends. He's entitled to that, and so are you. I would hope that they are trustworthy people who won't gossip about you to him and vice versa. Are things amicable with your ex?

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    Upset and annoyed.
    I'm in this position all the time. I understand that they were friends beforehand, but I just don't understand how someone could still want to be friends with someone that does something so awful to another one of their friends. It really gets to me tbh.

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    I would feel very gutted, rightly or wrongly I don't know but I would feel gutted.

    Huge hugs, hope you are ok xxxx

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    In my heart I would feel left out and sad, but in my head respect that they are friends too and entitled to catch up. It must be hard for your friends, as they obviously want to keep both friendships going but can't exactly invite you over at the same time to play happy families.

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    I would feel sad but at the same time he is making the effort to see his daughter in a way that doesn't disturb you (staying at your place or anything).

    It sucks cos of mutual friends but I guess that's how it goes.

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    Hmm... 😏

    I understand why he's there and that they are his friends but its not a very nice feeling at all.

    Thanks for your thoughts everyone. Makes it harder that our break up wasn't what I wanted and have had my heart broken.

    We are amicable, so much so that many people are surprised by how I treat him, but I only do this for my baby.

    Suppose I'll clean something within an inch of its life to keep occupied.

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    I would feel hurt and betrayed that they want to be friends with someone who treated me so badly. Yeah yeah it's none of their business and they shouldn't have to take sides, but I would still feel awful that they didn't take my side anyway.

    Big hugs.

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    hugs hun. This is one of the hardest parts of divorce, mutual friendships.
    I would also feel upset and left out. Thats completely natural x

    Do something lovely for yourself tonight when bub goes to bed. Have a relaxing bath, watch a movie.

    It gets easier over time. You need to navigate and set up a new way of life first. But you know, its sunny ahead x

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    I have this situation but the friend is actually my twin sister and her husband.


 

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