@Marigold I didn't think you were slightly rude at all, just concerned. I got where you were coming from.
I was abusing alcohol for a while in a similar manner to OP. My GP also pointed out that a daily alcohol intake in women is linked to a much higher incidence of cancer, particularly breast cancer. When I stopped breast feeding and DS was having major sleep issues I sunk back into daily drinking and have only now (after nearly 10 months) started having at least 3 alcohol free days a week. I am also much taller and heavier than OP (ok - I'm plump!) and my doctor was still very concerned about 1 to 4 drinks daily (when I pour wine, a glass is between 1 to 1.5 standard drinks)
OP while I think 4 glasses is excessive, I don't think there's anything wrong with a drink or two every night and actually alcohol in moderation is the way it should be enjoyed.
Id be much more concerned if you didn't drink all week but binged heavily every weekend - that is the kind of alcohol abuse we have so much trouble with in this country.
The way I see alcohol is that it is a luxury, to be enjoyed with a meal and in moderation. I drink wine most nights, one or two glasses, then I sit and have a tea or ice cream before bed. For someone to label me an alcoholic would be ridiculous.
If you feel you have a problem, then you may try gradually drinking less? And if you can do that then obviously you're ok. Alcoholics need alcohol, every day and can't stop or say, that's enough.
I think you do have a problem. There are some key things in your OP that make me think that, such as saying you depend on it and need it when stressed.
1-4 drinks is a lot to have every single day, especially if it's closer to 4 (and given your doctors reaction I'm guessing it is closer to 4?).
I'm not surprised you don't feel drunk, your body is so used to it. However, I am sure you are still impaired even if you don't feel it.
Many people are saying that if you don't get drunk it's not a problem when the opposite is true. Tolerance to alcohol (=not feeling drunk) is actually a sign of alcohol abuse. Alcoholics have high tolerance to alcohol, just like any other drug dependence, they need more if it to feel the effects.
In my opinion you do have a problem with alcohol and it's good that you are aware of it and talking to your GP about it.
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