I would have told them what I thought. They are never going to change if no one challenges them to open their eyes.
OP - it makes me sad too.
I remember feeding my DD in front of my sister and her DH prior to them having children and my sister having a go at me about it afterwards.
They now have two gorgeous DDs of their own and my sis BFs (extended) everywhere and good on her too.
Sometimes I think it's lack of experience/exposure, so I would just encourage everyone not to be put off by ignorance but just to go about BF as though it is nothing out of the ordinary (which is true!). I truly think that is the best way.
I am shocked by so many attitudes I've encountered as a BFing mum. There is still such a long, long way to go before it's fully accepted as a way of feeding a child and not just flashing your t!ts for the fun of it.
I just want to offer a different perspective. I am a very modest person and uncomfortable bf in public places so will often avoid it where possible eg find parent room, go in car, use cover etc. however I have great admiration for women who feed in public and wish I could do that without feeling so selfconscious.
Anyway, when I was at a friends place, we were both bf our babies. Her husband was home and in the same room and talking to us. I didn't say anything but I did feel really uncomfortable and in my mind was hoping he would go to another room. So I guess this is kinda the reverse situation, maybe those guys just felt uncomfortable seeing a friend's bbs?? Do they have kids? Maybe when they become parents their attitude will change. I know with dh his attitude changed after having kids.
I can honestly say that I have never experienced any type of discrimination/rude comments etc while breastfeeding. Perhaps it's because those that know me aren't game (they know I would rip their heads off!). As for strangers perhaps I just don't notice because I don't care. Or perhaps people nowdays are more understanding (I think they are).
I hate these attitudes, I get really feisty when I hear comments like that! I wish someone would dare give me beans while I'm feeding my baby!!
However I don't think it's a judgement free situation if she'd pulled out a bottle either!
Unfortunately it doesn't seem to matter how you feed, nappy, settle, raise your child. There's always some sort of ninny with an opinion and attitude about it!
I've been tutted at, told that "there are rooms for that", "you should use one of those capes" (Why? I'm not a superhero?). People are strange sometimes and I just ignore them, but it does knock your confidence a bit.
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