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    Default So sad and angry- attitudes still haven't changed!

    Just wanted to share a sad experience about attitudes from a group of today's 30something males

    DH and I had a small group of friends around (mostly male) and one brought his newish girlfriend (we had all met her a few times) with her baby.

    She later on breastfed him whilst we were all watching a movie. She was very discreet, covering herself with a wrap. She was in the corner lounge so it wasn't even obvious (or do I thought). Nobody had seen even a hint of boob.

    When they left - a couple of hours later so it wasn't fresh in anybody's mind- everyone proceeded to discuss how they couldn't believe she had done that "whipped it out" and why couldn't she have gone into another room? I was horrified at this!! (and same with DH) and I too had breastfeed once or twice previously in front of the same group and I wasn't half as discreet as her!!! Wonder what they have been saying about that?!?

    If somebody can't breastfeed discreetly with people they know in the privacy of someone's home what chance do we have? Attitudes haven't changed at all. So sad.

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    yes, so sad. It is such a shame that even if a mother is discreet while bfing, others will still be offended. I hope she doesn't get to hear the comments. Breastfeeding is challenge enough without having to deal with stupid comments from your "friends '. Marie.

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    I hope you said something to them!

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    Wow, they need to grow up.

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    People suck. This is why I hate people. Particularly the small minded a-holes that this lot seem to be. It's a food source for her baby, for crying out loud and their trumped up moral code is ridiculous and embarrassing. My ex-DW BF in public and I often would glower at anyone who dared looked at her disapprovingly. My child was going to be fed wherever her mother wanted to feed her and I'd have happily clocked anyone who dared argue with that right.

    Grrr, like I said, god I hate people. Ergh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    I hope you said something to them!
    What's the point?

    DH and I said hey what's wrong with that, we didn't have a problem with it but you can't change people's attitudes....
    Edit: they may learn to tolerate it but will always be thinking its gross or inappropriate

    Nobody would of battered an eyelid if she pulled out a bottle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Daptoamy View Post
    Nobody would of battered an eyelid if she pulled out a bottle.
    I agree it's a crappy attitude, and I fully support bfing in public, at home, where ever. They sound pretty stupid. But tbh, I disagree with the above, in fact in my experience bfing is far more supported and considered positively than formula.

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    That sucks, wonder how these men will feel/react when it's their wives bf their bubbas

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    Quote Originally Posted by ourbradybunch View Post
    That sucks, wonder how these men will feel/react when it's their wives bf their bubbas
    This exactly. Once it's there own baby they'll stop seeing breasts a sexual thing when it comes to breastfeeding. But surely this is not normal is it? I've never had issues bf any of my 3 and I'm very much if my bubs hungry I'm feeding them.

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