I wrote a really satisfying rant and then saw your post about how he's normally good with the kids. Which is a shame because it was a REALLY good rant. Lol.
I'd suggest counselling. The two of you need to be able to communicate effectively and perhaps having the counsellor there as "referee" will allow you both to express how you both feel.
hi javic, what sort of thing do you think will be a solution? He has to simply grow up. Do you think he may have some sort of gluten intolerance? Im sorry , Im not understanding what sort of solution you might think is possible. He has to just make some changes to his behaviour. Him falling asleep on the couch is not indicating he was feeling tired and cranky when he refused to help you with the children, it just shows he can only think of his needs and wants. You have just described his behaviour as a 'toddler', I agree with that. hugs, Marie.
Marie, my idea of a solution would be something to teach him how to change - a book for him to read or a course to take or a counsellor. But first he needs to acknowledge he has a problem. I'm not sure how to get him to recognize it.
hi javic, I had to take a break to think about your reply. I know there are books in the library that are meant for children, that teach about manners, and empathy, and helping others. Are you thinking that sort of thing will work? Any adult should be able to see that his behaviour is selfish, and just plain wrong. good luck with him. Marie.
He has definite underlying issues with entitlement or control or something. Possibly a counsellor would be good if he is willing.
It sounds like to me that he doesn't like being told what to do by you even though it is a reasonable request. Some men can have a real problem with women giving orders. They think that the household should be run by their rules.
Last edited by hopefulmum2; 18-12-2013 at 15:53.
Excuse me read it properly - I said some men!!!!!
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