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    Lets educate and move on. Washing mouths out with soap is not the issue OP has. It is swearing and aggression.

    OP maybe try ignoring some of his swearing and telling him if he must swear then do it in his room where no one can hear him. Explain how its not nice etc..

    As for behaviour, I think you might need to set more firm boundaries and clear consequences such as time outs and confiscations as well as possibly look at his diet as well. My dd1 was quite aggressive as a toddler and things improved dramatically when we removed artificial colours from her diet.

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    My son used to swear like a trooper and it wasnt nice hearing the words f'ing c*nt. I tried lots of different things. He is now 6 and doesnt swear.

    Some people repeat from their childhood and i did using curry powder(i got a lashing on here too about that). In the end, i reminded him it was a yucky word that shoudnt be used. When he hears my dad or sister saying it, he tells them off for it. Constant reminders and taking the tv away(which broke his heart and still.does when i punish him with no tv)



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    Wow, Soap and chilli sauce? I find this thread upsetting and tbh, concerning I think I'd better leave it there....

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    Quote Originally Posted by supersic View Post
    No the chilli sauce is not a joke I use it with my 13 year old who now loves eating raw chillis because he likes the flavour.
    Was I suggesting it for a 3 year old no that's why I suggested lemon juice.

    As for those saying forced ingestion of some is abuse, does that mean I abuse my kids because I force them to eat their veggies???, because I do force them to eat their veggies even if I have to feed them myself.
    I don't force my child to eat anything, there is a big difference between encouraging, role modelling, rewarding and forcing food (or any other substance) into the mouth of a child. Surely you can see the difference?

    I'm flabbergasted that such archaic practices are still believed by some to be acceptable and those that take issue with it should not voice our concerns.

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    Quote Originally Posted by supersic View Post
    I think most of the people who have replied to this post are just plain rude and judgemental.
    Someone posted after help and most of you tell her she's abusing her child and that she's in denial about her behaviour in her home.
    I think you all need to grow up and instead of spreading your judgement try being helpful.
    I didn't mean to like this post I meant to quote.




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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Wow, Soap and chilli sauce? I find this thread upsetting and tbh, concerning I think I'd better leave it there....
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    Quote Originally Posted by supersic View Post
    No the chilli sauce is not a joke I use it with my 13 year old who now loves eating raw chillis because he likes the flavour.
    Was I suggesting it for a 3 year old no that's why I suggested lemon juice.

    As for those saying forced ingestion of some is abuse, does that mean I abuse my kids because I force them to eat their veggies???, because I do force them to eat their veggies even if I have to feed them myself.
    I think that force feeding anything to a child, be it lemon juice or veggies, is an aggressive behavior that will lead to nothing but fear. They might stop swearing, because they're afraid of the force feeding, not because they understand why they shouldn't or healthier ways of dealing with their emotions.

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    I force my child by saying here take this, this what you get for saying that word and you don't get to play until you eat it, he takes the spoon and eats it himself. My younger kids get the same with their veggies. It's forced because it's something they don't want to do but you make them do it anyway. Simple as that!

    I take the same approach with homework baths ect you must do it and until you do you don't get to leave the table to do what you want.

    My children are well mannered and well behaved kids, I'm always getting told how great they are and the fact that once told no we are doing this they except that that's the way it is and happily do as they are asked. My kids know they are safe and that I would do anything for them. I even forced my son to take ballet as his Physio suggested it as part of his therapy for his scholliosis, he didn't want to at first but I told he either does this or he doesn't get to play his favourite sport, he now loves it and asked if he could attend classes twice a week.

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    Hugs op.
    I don't think you were trying to be abusive, you're just at your wits end with something that really bothers you. I'd never personally do it but I understand your frustration.

    My ds1 swears occasionally and for us ignoring works, but if one of us say the f word or we have an argument, our kids certainly do start to think that it's ok and do the same.

    Is he always on the go? Can you try and promote some more placid, quiet play? Perhaps he'd become a bit more cruisy if he started to do nmore quiet activities... And ditch the tradies coz someone must be influencing him.

    Good luck, little boys can be hard work.

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    Beyond gross thread, yes, forcing soap and chilli sauce in a child's mouth is child abuse.

    My advice to anybody that thinks this is good parenting is to book yourself in for some parenting classes ASAP.
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