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    I think most of the people who have replied to this post are just plain rude and judgemental.
    Someone posted after help and most of you tell her she's abusing her child and that she's in denial about her behaviour in her home.
    I think you all need to grow up and instead of spreading your judgement try being helpful.

    You sound like a good mother so don't let the nasty negative comments of the judgemental get you down. Head up clearly by posting asking for help you are concerned about your son and his upbringing. Good luck
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    Please tell me the chilli sauce is a joke?

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    Quote Originally Posted by supersic View Post
    I think most of the people who have replied to this post are just plain rude and judgemental.
    Someone posted after help and most of you tell her she's abusing her child and that she's in denial about her behaviour in her home.
    I think you all need to grow up and instead of spreading your judgement try being helpful.

    OP I have found that a mix of timeout and ignoring behaviour to work wonders. If not a mouthful of something they don't like, my 13 year old gets chilli sauce, work on the same principle of washing their mouth with soap but less judged as the food item if fine for human consumption. I found chilli sauce works best as the initial burn only lasts a short time and they don't find the experience pleasant. I started with sweet chilli sauce and used an amount that was appropriate for their age. If you don't want to use chilli sauce maybe lemon juice or something similar that he doesn't like.

    Hope this helps you with your problem. You sound like a good mother so don't let the nasty negative comments of the judgemental get you down. Head up clearly by posting asking for help you are concerned about your son and his upbringing. Good luck
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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    How a parent disciplines their child is their business.
    No, it's everyone's business when it becomes abuse.

    I'm not saying that this it he case with the OP and I sincerely hope the OP gets the help she needs with this situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by debsch View Post
    About the washing out with soap - how is this against the law? (My boy EATS soap...) Does it depend on the soap? Homebrand is an offence but a soap-free-natural-food-based-bar is OK?

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    Because its abusve. Voluntarily eating soap is quite different from having it forced upon you. People have been charged for the soap discipline method as its dangerous (kids can and do end up very sick in hospital). So it's definitely a traditional method to stay away from. Not okay.

    Same applies for any kind of forced ingestion eg chilli. The government's own human rights website lists it as a form of corporal punishment that violates children's rights.

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    I try and stay out of these types of threads and not comment on how people discipline their children but this thread has really upset me. Forcing soap and chili sauce on your child for swearing? I cannot see how a) this is an effective way of handling things and b) how you don't see it as abuse.

    Back to there OP. I'd be worried about the aggression more than the swearing, especially considering you say you're softly spoken around him. Maybe take him to see someone if you've exhausted all other avenues. Kids get angry and have tantrums, but screaming in your face in anger doesn't seem normal.

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    No the chilli sauce is not a joke I use it with my 13 year old who now loves eating raw chillis because he likes the flavour.
    Was I suggesting it for a 3 year old no that's why I suggested lemon juice.

    As for those saying forced ingestion of some is abuse, does that mean I abuse my kids because I force them to eat their veggies???, because I do force them to eat their veggies even if I have to feed them myself.

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    I don't believe in force feeding a child anything, I believe in teaching them , without force , how often did you force your child to eat chilli sauce?

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    Op, I have had this problem with my DD - I am completely aware i can use bad language and do, not intentionally in front of DD but no doubt she has heard me. I found it distressing and hurtful too. I guess the thing that i found was consistency worked best for me. Pick something (time out, removal of toy etc) and stick to it.
    Good luck, it is a phase and it will pass.

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