I think most of the people who have replied to this post are just plain rude and judgemental.
Someone posted after help and most of you tell her she's abusing her child and that she's in denial about her behaviour in her home.
I think you all need to grow up and instead of spreading your judgement try being helpful.
You sound like a good mother so don't let the nasty negative comments of the judgemental get you down. Head up clearly by posting asking for help you are concerned about your son and his upbringing. Good luck