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    I just got a message in fb from a friend who is getting married in may. I know this topic has been discussed before but wanted some opinions anyway.

    We live in Sydney and our friends wedding is about 7 hours drive north.

    Anyway DS is 2.5 and I'm due with number 2 end of jan.

    When we got married we said no kids at the wedding which I completely understand, we were planning on getting a babysitter for DS.

    The bride has just messages people on Facebook saying no kids at the wedding so I replied that's fine, but what about a 3-4 month old baby who is breasted? I explained I wouldn't be able to leave baby with a babysitter, anyway she's replied no. No kids AT ALL.

    I always assumed younger breasted babies were excluded from the 'no kids' rule at weddings?

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    Don't go! Problem solved

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    It just depends on the bride to be honest. Some are fine with young breastfed babies that don't cause much fuss but others will say no way. I guess it's their choice but I'd probably say now look I'm really sorry but we won't be able to make it I'll have the new baby by then and there I won't be able to leave my little one because I will still be breastfeeding. Maybe she'll change her mind when you realise you won't be able to make it

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    It's weird as she has said they have a few friends in the same position so I'm
    guessing a few of her friends then won't be able to come...

    Not sure how to word my response to her as I don't want to be rude..

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    Sounds like she doesn't want you at the wedding. :-(

    You could take bub with you and leave it at the hotel with a trusted babysitter and either some EBM or you come back for a feed.

    I'd do the effort for a really close friend but I don't think I'd bother given the no baby rule (as in I don't think I would want to stay friends with them).

    At the end of the day, their wedding their rules.

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    Just respond honestly. Something like " I am unsure if I'll be able to find someone to take care of bub as they will be quite young. Sowe may not be able to attend. But we hope you enjoy your day "

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    I always assumed younger breasted babies were excluded from the 'no kids' rule at weddings?
    In my experience, no kids also means infants whether they are breastfed or not.

    Sometimes this is due to the bride/groom’s wishes but often it’s the venue who won’t allow them too.

    Try not to be offended. I eloped to escape all the crap that comes with organising a wedding – lol. Ultimately, it’s their day and their request.



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    I am not sure what to do, I'll have a talk to DH. I am not super close with the bride, but I have known and been friends with her DF for about 10 years (DH grew up with him etc) so I'd really love to go to the wedding. I know when it comes down to it DH will prob go in his own as its one of his good friends and I'll be left at home alone with 2 young kids which is going to suck!

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    Can you organise someone to look after your little one for a few hours?

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    We had a no kids policy but we made exceptions for babies!!!
    I'd be honest with her and say u probably won't be able to attend as you can't leave bub!


 

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