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    Default Feeling Helpless and Unworthy :(

    Hi everyone


    I am only new to this site today so please forgive me if I have done this incorrectly.


    I really need some help - i had a gut feeling to go the doctor about 3 months ago, just wanting to find out wether or not i would be able to fall pregnant and if things are ok 'down there'.


    I am 26 nearly 27 and have wanted kids since i was 22 although after a divorce and only being with my new partner ( who doesn't want kids for another 5 years) for 2 years it makes it quite hard, the timing for him is not right.


    I went to the docs and got a blood test which showed that my egg count was at 10.1 ( which it should be between 14 - 30). I knew that something was wrong and that my belly was telling me something even though I was not trying to have a baby just yet.


    As of Thursday last week i am off the pill in order to see if my hormone levels will change any of the test results ( which i highly doubt it, well not the egg part anyway). I also have been diagnosed with polycystic ovaries and my pituitary gland is not firing.


    WHAT DO I DO. I have started to look into the cost of freezing my eggs although it seems to be around the $7000 - $1000 mark and for each year that they are kept frozen they charge a $500 freezing fee. Then you have to pay more money to get them put back in.


    I am extremely upset about this and cry almost everyday. My partner tells me that he will support me, although what he says and his actions sometimes make me think differently. Its very hard when i know that this is something that he isnt that interested in at this point in time in his life, so i do go easy on him and try not to put a lot of pressure on him.


    What do i do. Is freezing eggs worth the money. What if it doesnt work. I feel like i am gambling my money away. Can someone please give me some advice???


    Thank you

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    Hi Maranoa

    As we speak I have just had a melt down. I feel so sorry for those who are trying. Me I'm not even allowed to try yet ( because my partner isnt ready) and when i do start trying i know i will have troubles.

    I am also adopted - which is why i can't wait to hold something that is 100% mine to have and to love and to keep and is a make-up of me. My partner also doesnt understand this ( which he wouldn't, he isnt adopted)

    My GP isnt the bed - i am waiting to get into a Gyno. I have gone off the pill to see if hormone levels change at all so i will get the blood test again in Jan. Sooooo I just have to wait it out.

    I just feel like it is such a massive amount of money and with my other problems may not work

    arghhhhhhh..... this is eating me alive

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    Did your doctor tell you what 10.1 AMH means?? It's actually pretty good! Mine is 8 which is low for my age but I actually donate eggs and have had no problems. Also AMH levels at notoriously wrong and often give a different result when re tested.
    I know you must be in shock but unless there are other indicators of poor fertility I wouldn't stress yet.
    Also wanted up mention that eggs alone don't freeze very well ( or defrost very well) so if you want to go that route perhaps look into fertilising them first before freezing. Good luck

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    Hi All

    Had a talk to the fertility clinic today. So my estimated $7000 - $10,000 was a little off.... They said total costs ( as you dont get anything back from Medicare) was $13,500 ( more like $14,000 after all of my appointments and tests

    I think i have made up my mind. I think i am just going to wait until my partner is ready and then just fingers crossed ( legs not) and hope for the best. I dont have that sort of money


 

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