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    Default I think my husband and I just

    Ended out marriage. He isn't willing to work on any of out issues, refuses to go to counselling it's all my fault. I deserve better?

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    Do you think if he calms down he might want to go to counselling ?
    Do you want to work things out?

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    Edit...oops, I didn't mean to quote the pp

    Counselling isn't always the answer. Some ppl don't like talking about private stuff to a complete stranger. Does he want to save the marriage? Where there is a will there is a way but it has to be worked on GL
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    He said " this is the way I am and I'm. It going to change" he is a lot
    Older then me and has no polar. He just isn't willing to do anything

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    It's pretty hard when the other person won't bring anything to the table in the way of trying to work on things. I've been through this, still going through this. I'm walking away, I've stopped caring enough to want to fix things anymore, what's the point if he won't?
    For a long while I told myself that maybe that will be enough to wake him up and get him to start making an effort, and if it didn't then it wasn't meant to be any way.
    I'm now at the point though where nothing he does will help our relationship. I still hope he does seek help, for the sake of our children, but as for our relationship, it's beyond the point of fixing.

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    I feel the same, at the moment the only thing keeping me here is out 3 here old. He has threatened in previous arguments that he would take me to court and take her away. I no realistically he couldn't but I don't want to share her. I feel like I haven't been happy for so long

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    Quote Originally Posted by Patience Belmont View Post
    I feel the same, at the moment the only thing keeping me here is out 3 here old. He has threatened in previous arguments that he would take me to court and take her away. I no realistically he couldn't but I don't want to share her. I feel like I haven't been happy for so long
    Once I was your little girl & my mum stayed for me. She left when I broke the plates in the sink & burst into tears because I couldn't take living in such a hostile house anymore. We used to hide in our rooms just to stop hearing the arguments or seeing our parents obviously not wanting to be in the same room as one another. I was proud of my mum because she stood up for us kids & said she would rather fight him in court than in front of us. It was sad not having dad around but we were happy to come home to a loving & peaceful home. I just wanted to reach out to you & let you know your daughter will see your strength & respect you for whatever decision you make. Kids see more than you realise but in terms of seeing who people really are that's a good thing too.

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    Being unable to share responsibility for the health of a relationship I think means it ceases to be a relationship. I couldn't live like that OP. You've put yourself out and there and he's given you nothing, why would you stay?



 

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