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My daughter just turned six and she is always constipated. I first found out about a year and a half ago, but maybe she was already constipated before, maybe I just didn't notice it before... So I went to see my GP and she always talks about: more prunes, water, fibres, etc. OK, we are doing that, and no rice or other constipating stuff. All these efforts for a very tiny improvement. If we are super duper strict on her diet water etc, then she is going to be slightly less constipated. Still constipated, but OK. If we make the slightest exception to that diet, then she is back to badly constipated. The poo can even be complety dry like sand... O_o
I tried to get her tested for food allergy, but my GP has always been so unworried (just take more prunes etc etc). Still, it is too hard for her and for us. So the other day I went to see another GP and told her I wanted a food allergy test no matter what they think. She gave me a referal, and I rang for the appointment. The secretary over the phone told me that the allergy Dr doesn't believe food allergy can cause constipation. Big disappointment for me, it was my best guess so far. But still I booked her in for the allergy test (end of January, there is nothing available before that). Also, I thought about food allergy because we already did a few months without cow milk once, that helped her with her eczema (now she has no more eczema), but then we started again cow milk because daddy isn't convinced, he thinks cow milk is soooo important (...). So I was thinking, maybe lactose, gluten, what-else. I was sure food allergy or food intolerance could cause constipation. I should also say that she never has diarrhoea and she isn't much in pain, though she sometimes complains of tummyaches. She does eat very little (she really eat only half of what her little brother eats!). She sleeps very well, very deeply, and she doesn't have other health issues.
I don't know what to do. It is not fair for her. It's been more than a year now. We always fight for her to get prunes and fibres and water, and for such a little result. Do you have any suggestion?
There is also another problem. She isn't properly potty trained, which makes me feel cranky at time, I am not the best mother ever and I know I am not helping, but the school pressure etc it sometimes makes me feel like she isn't doing everything she could. So I know that her wet pants are caused by constipation and also by mummy putting too much pressure on her. I am telling this, so you understand that the constipation problem is my daughter's and the potty-training is mine. I mean, I would like her to stop being so constipated, even if that wouldn't solve the wet pants problem. She can't spend her life being so constipated, how comes my GP even thinks it is normal?
I am so tired, so sad for her, it is putting so much pressure on our relationship (and I know it is my fault, I am not proud of it, I need help but noone is very helpful to me, they all say "it is OK, more prunes, less pressure"... but that's not OK!).
Sorry, it is all very confused. Thanks for having read.