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    Unhappy Constipation, please help...

    Hello

    That's going to be long, thanks for reading!

    My daughter just turned six and she is always constipated. I first found out about a year and a half ago, but maybe she was already constipated before, maybe I just didn't notice it before... So I went to see my GP and she always talks about: more prunes, water, fibres, etc. OK, we are doing that, and no rice or other constipating stuff. All these efforts for a very tiny improvement. If we are super duper strict on her diet water etc, then she is going to be slightly less constipated. Still constipated, but OK. If we make the slightest exception to that diet, then she is back to badly constipated. The poo can even be complety dry like sand... O_o
    I tried to get her tested for food allergy, but my GP has always been so unworried (just take more prunes etc etc). Still, it is too hard for her and for us. So the other day I went to see another GP and told her I wanted a food allergy test no matter what they think. She gave me a referal, and I rang for the appointment. The secretary over the phone told me that the allergy Dr doesn't believe food allergy can cause constipation. Big disappointment for me, it was my best guess so far. But still I booked her in for the allergy test (end of January, there is nothing available before that). Also, I thought about food allergy because we already did a few months without cow milk once, that helped her with her eczema (now she has no more eczema), but then we started again cow milk because daddy isn't convinced, he thinks cow milk is soooo important (...). So I was thinking, maybe lactose, gluten, what-else. I was sure food allergy or food intolerance could cause constipation. I should also say that she never has diarrhoea and she isn't much in pain, though she sometimes complains of tummyaches. She does eat very little (she really eat only half of what her little brother eats!). She sleeps very well, very deeply, and she doesn't have other health issues.
    I don't know what to do. It is not fair for her. It's been more than a year now. We always fight for her to get prunes and fibres and water, and for such a little result. Do you have any suggestion?
    There is also another problem. She isn't properly potty trained, which makes me feel cranky at time, I am not the best mother ever and I know I am not helping, but the school pressure etc it sometimes makes me feel like she isn't doing everything she could. So I know that her wet pants are caused by constipation and also by mummy putting too much pressure on her. I am telling this, so you understand that the constipation problem is my daughter's and the potty-training is mine. I mean, I would like her to stop being so constipated, even if that wouldn't solve the wet pants problem. She can't spend her life being so constipated, how comes my GP even thinks it is normal?
    I am so tired, so sad for her, it is putting so much pressure on our relationship (and I know it is my fault, I am not proud of it, I need help but noone is very helpful to me, they all say "it is OK, more prunes, less pressure"... but that's not OK!).

    Sorry, it is all very confused. Thanks for having read.

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    That has got to be tough. So is the food allergy test going ahead?
    Go with your instinct, if you think something is wrong, keep asking for answers and help until somebody listens to you. Surely there has so be a specialist for this? I have been told that Plums are a good alternative to prunes and might be easier to get her to eat them?

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    This is a radical suggestion and I'm not sure on how safe it is for children but if the constipation is chronic you could consider colonic irrigation or a similar alternative. I use this sometimes for IBS and its instant relief- otherwise accupuncture. Both have helped me. Otherwise you may consider psychological measures. In my opinion not everything related to the body has a physical cause. Is your child experiencing stress?

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    Has the dr considered or mentioned medication? Such as coloxyl? At 6 she's could take some other meds too.
    I think you need a new GP or referral to a pediatrician
    Also intolerance of some food/ingredients can cause constipation. Intolerance is different to allergy and very hard to diagnose.

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    Yes, she has lots of stress, most of it because of me, because when I am tired I am so cranky at her for all these wet pants and pooing in front of me in her undies. I know it is all my fault, and I am really not proud of it when I write this.

    I guess I would need someone to be here with me and make it look easy-peasy. I don't know. Let me think about these things...

    I need to sit and make a new "program", the new "Nanouk way of life" with nothing stressful for my girl and easy unconstipating things for her.

    The things with plums for instance, it is like what my GP tells me all the time. Try pears, try pure fibres, more water, etc. It makes such a little difference: the underlying problem is still there. Maybe I am the underlying problem. Let me think about that nice happy programm...

    (I have just heard of PM syndrome, and eventually found out why I am so tired, so unhappy, so cranky, so crazy these few days a month... life is miserable for me right now, that's why I am here complaing and crying... )

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    It's very frustrating but chronic constipation affects many children and adults in western society.
    While trying to eat high fibre food is helpful, a safe and often better option is adding long-term supplementation with a fibre supplement like Metamucil. For children Benefibre might be better as it's just added over regular food. It's safe and long-term use doesn't lead to lazy bowel or other issues associated with long-term laxative use as it's just fibre.
    Perhaps try this daily for 6 weeks, along with plenty of fluid, and if it's working for your child, continue on.
    Hoping for improvement.

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    Oh yes, I forgot to mention coloxyl. One day I was so desperate, I went to the pharmacy and ask a pharmacist and he gave me these baby coloxyl drops. It made exactly no difference to her constipation.

    But yes, I need to see a pediatrician, that's exactly what I need. It would be his job to see with me what could cause that constipation, no?

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    my dd was the same. coloxyl, parachoc, movical didn't work. pead had her tested and found she is lactose sensitive... so put her on a soy diet. helped a bit but her poo is still dry but she can go which is a relief. he got me to put her on to osmolax which you can put in their everyday milk/water - tastes like nothing... and it keeps them regular. really helped too.

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    We did try benefibre. Would it be safe to use, like, three times the normal daily amount? It is only fibre, isn't it, so it would not be a problem I guess?

    I saw a lady once, the best thing I have ever done for that problem... A physio specialized in children incontinence. The program she gave me didn't completely works with our daughter (and with our education values), but she was very nice and helpful, I don't know why exactly, she made me feel good. I need to go and see her again.

    The new Nanouk program could include :
    - lots of benefibre (hidding in her food),
    - more water,
    - mummy not saying anything about wet pants,
    - more positive things, mummy working on some positive pictures of her (she must now think she is constipated and she isn't good with toilet, I need to replace that with something else, reinfoce something nice like "Little miss organised" or I don't know what)

    Think, think, think.

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    Sorry to hijack, but it is related I swear! My 7mth old is extremely constipated (have had an awful morning with her screaming and grunting so much she can barely breathe) are any of the previous suggestions suitable for her age?


 

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