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    Default Fathers Rights!

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    Quote Originally Posted by dee1 View Post
    So there is a story circling Facebook at the moment about a lady who gave her child up for adoption despite the father desperately wanting the child. I don't know whether it's true, but it certainly got me thinking...

    As a woman it is 'our' body, realistically we can choose to terminate or keep a baby without the consent of the father.

    Do you think this is fair?

    Do you think it is fair for a woman to terminate a baby who is very much wanted by the father?
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    Fair? Maybe not, but her right? Absolutely.

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    Might not be fair but that's the way it is. If a 'father' doesn't want a baby there are plenty of things he can do to prevent one !

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    It's not fair..... My husband is paying for a child conceived in a very short relationship- she told him she was on the pill, was allergic to condoms. Voila pregnant.... Was he stupid for believing her- hell yes- do we live with the financial ramifications every day of that stupidity- hell yes. Did she later admit "I was only taking the pill every 4-5th day and wanted a baby"- yes. So an act of stupidity at 23 means he lives with those consequences forever- was he ready for a baby- hell no but did he have any choice- no. Tell your sons- do not believe any girl who claims she is on the pill etc- if the condoms not on then it's not on.

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    I do think that some men not all, do get a rough deal when it comes to their kids and in the end its the kids that miss out... I know from personal experience that there are some women out there that get what they want ( a baby) and treat the father of the baby like crap because society says its ok .....

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    Of course it's fair. A woman should have final say over her body and the potential life it is carrying. If a woman was to terminate or be forced to birth a baby she didn't want, just because on the man's say so, well. I have far too many choice words to say about that, but I will refrain.

    Having said that, I do believe that discussion should be on the cards. The two parties involved should talk about the pregnancy, both make their wishes known, but ultimately, yes, it is the woman's decision, and yes, I think that is fair. It may not be nice for the man, but it's fair.

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    Is it fair that some girls go out with the intention of picking up a guy with a good job just to get pregnant with no expectation of being honest about their intentions and no intention of being in a relationship with the babies father. Even as a woman I find the idea that women do this appalling but it happens- yes it happens.

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    I dont think the adoption scenario can happen like that here in Australia, unless he didn't know his rights and fight for them.

    The rest, I am with Lillynix.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meags82 View Post
    Is it fair that some girls go out with the intention of picking up a guy with a good job just to get pregnant with no expectation of being honest about their intentions and no intention of being in a relationship with the babies father. Even as a woman I find the idea that women do this appalling but it happens- yes it happens.
    No it's not fair but if the man doesn't want a baby he can wear a condom or abstain from having sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meags82 View Post
    It's not fair..... My husband is paying for a child conceived in a very short relationship- she told him she was on the pill, was allergic to condoms. Voila pregnant.... Was he stupid for believing her- hell yes- do we live with the financial ramifications every day of that stupidity- hell yes. Did she later admit "I was only taking the pill every 4-5th day and wanted a baby"- yes. So an act of stupidity at 23 means he lives with those consequences forever- was he ready for a baby- hell no but did he have any choice- no. Tell your sons- do not believe any girl who claims she is on the pill etc- if the condoms not on then it's not on.
    While this situation would be really hard as your hubby was deceived, any time you have sex you run the risk of a baby eventuating. No contraception is 100%.

    He did have a choice, that was to have sex. While the woman was lying to him which is def not cool, the child didn't ask to be born as a financial burden. Any time you have sex you should admit the possibility of a pregnancy.

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