Haha yes without trying to be snobby I'm talking about northern suburbs of Brissy vs inner Sydney. And either way i have little to no friends in Brissy as the ones I have are spread out.
I don't blame anyone for giving up on me this post! This life decision is too hard
The first step would to be to apply for some jobs and see what kind of money you could make (I.e. Having a job offer), work out where you would need to live for that job. I would probably rent for a while until you are sure where you want to settle - you may find better work in the southern suburbs for example.
Would it be possible to have your Sydney home rented? And either rent or buy a lower value property in Brissie (rather than mortgage free)? That way your not fully committed. I would personally like to spend time with my parents whilst I could.
Also, re friends in Brissie, you'll make them easy enough through work & your 5 year old who no doubt will make friends through schools & activities.
Agree with pp about looking for jobs first and gathering information. You could also do a few trips and see what 'life' would be like - go out for a night without DS, look at houses...Brisbane is my hometown, and I have no intention if returning - after living in Sydney, Milan, London and Boston it just doesn't compare!
I would pick the place you are happiest taking into account - challenged and stimulated at work (our personal professional options are extremely limited in Brisbane),active social life, school options for DS...
Tough decision OP - good luck
I would choose A. I don't think I could be happy away from my friends and with a $hitty job. Moving back to my home town (eek!) and looking after my parents (eek!) wouldn't make up for those losses.
Each person and their circumstances are different though.
Option B! We hate Sydney its overpriced and so busy we spend most of our life sitting in traffic on buses and in cars. I would move to Brisbane if my parents were up there in a second but they are in Sydney. I'm also an only child so need to be near them as they age.
Thanks everyone! It's such a hard decision there are pluses and negatives for both.
I've lived 20 years in major cities but as I'm getting older I'm just getting abit sick of it. It can be so hard in Sydney with the traffic and so many people. DH and I joke that its going to implode here soon.
if we returned to Brissy I would study a degree and have my parents help with DS. It would be nice for them to have a proper relationship.
But I'd miss my friends. It's very unlikely we'd build a group like we have down here. I'd miss the weather. I'd miss the high streets. I'd miss a lot!
we are going up in the early new year to get a feel of it. Look around in the area were thinking to buy. If it suffocates us immediately then that will be our answer. But if it doesn't we have a hard decision to make
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