Without going into the ins and outs and complexity of my situation. Would my fellow bubhubbers either:
* stay in the city you've made a home in, bought a house, great jobs and awesome friends but massive mortgage and neither DH and I from this town; or
*.move to my home town after almost 20 years away, buy a house outright, no friends but without the mortgage have money to save, travel (especially more regular trips to DH home country) jobs not as good but could afford to work less hours, support my ageing parents but basically start again....
what would you do?