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    Default Have you left your profession to become a stay at home mum?

    Im looking for comments from others who have resigned from their professional career to be a sahm? i.e., have you quit your paid job as say for example, a doctor, accountant, lawyer, engineer, dentist and now look after the kids without doing any paid work outside the home? If yes, how are you finding it? Do you miss your career or are you happy with your decision?

    Im thinking of taking this route and so any thoughts would be much appreciated.

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    Yes I have.

    I was a nurse and haven't worked since I was 22 weeks preg, my DD is almost 3.5. I have never looked back. I love being a mum, it's my complete focus at this point in my life. Being at home with my daughter and being there to watch her grow has been a gift and I wouldn't trade it for any career.

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    I'm currently at home with 4 month old DS.
    Prior to this I was working in allied health and also a uni lecturer in my field.

    I have mixed feelings about being home. I love it and feel sorry for DH that he has to go to work every day and miss out on being home with bub.
    But part of me also feels like my profession is now moving on without me and I'm waving bye bye to it. It feels weird to know that there is new research and new journal editions being published in my field and I don't even know what is in the table of contents let alone in the whole article.

    I suspect I will go back to work part time, even maybe just half day a week, in another 6 months or so. I'm lucky that my profession lends itself easily to part time work, I can just see patients privately during set hours, or lecture one unit or something. I have friends in other fields such as law where part time is just not an option for them.

    All in all, I wouldn't change it for anything and I've got the best bub in the world to hang out with all day

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    Yep, I was working as a lawyer until a few weeks before I had DD1 in late 2010. Have been a SAHM ever since (had DD2 6 months ago) and haven't had any paid work in that time. Love it! Don't miss work at all even though I really enjoyed it at the time (though v.stressful). Don't plan on going back until all our kids are in full time education. Planning another 1 or 2 kids so will be awhile.

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    I kind of did. I spent my whole working life with the aim to do humanitarian work professionally. The two years before DD I did my first real stint and was set up to just continue along this path working in far flung places in the middle of war zones etc. It was all I'd wanted to do all my life. Anyway..I've now been put for 6 years in Australia working in urban jobs with no plans on going anywhere. I love being a mum but I won't lie as I miss this type of work and adventure with every ounce of my being. It's too much part of who I am to not miss it. Anyway, I'll do it again one day. I have to.

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    Yep. I had a career in management at a government department. I had worked my way up and was on a good salary, did interesting work and really enjoyed my career. I had always intended on being a working mum and continuing my climb of the corporate ladder. I only realised I wanted to be a SAHM a few weeks after I went back to work after having DS1 (he was 13 months old when I went back). I was probably the most surprised with my decision. For us I felt it was the best thing for my son and any future children. It also meant moving from the inner city to the outer 'burbs.

    I often wonder "what if" in terms of sticking it out. I wonder if I would have gotten over the feeling I should be a SAHM. I miss the work I did and the people I worked with. I miss being something other than a mum. I really miss living in he inner city and I have had moments of complete and utter regret. But mostly I know it was the right decision. I always felt like I wasn't giving as much to my employer or to my son as I wanted to. I never felt completely engaged and passionate at work which was weird for me. DS1 never really coped with daycare and absolutely thrived when I stayed home. Friends commented on how much happier and content he seemed. DS2 hasn't known anything different but I suspect he would have hated daycare as well.

    Overall I did the right thing. But yeah, I really miss my working life.

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    I have resigned from my position in insurance. I was slowly climbing up in my field but decided when i fell pregnant that i would resign to stay at home and then play it all by ear.

    I don't know if i will ever go back to work. I loved my job and found it very rewarding but my family comes first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jellyfishie View Post
    But part of me also feels like my profession is now moving on without me and I'm waving bye bye to it.
    This is how I feel as well. I was an accountant and I've decided not to go back when I said I would (early next year) and stay home until DS turns 1 at least. This means there is a good chance my work will not take me back and I will be hard-pressed to get another job. It's not a profession where there are lots of part time jobs and neither DH nor I want me to work full time. Plus I took about 10 months off from the profession last year and I had trouble getting back into the industry so I can imagine my chances after taking 12 months + off

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    Thank you for the replies. I think I will resign and become a sahm for the forseeable future, but I will miss working and my colleagues.

    Part time work was so stressful after my first round of maternity leave. I felt like I was expected to undertake a fulltime work load in 3 days. Im not sure if there is such a thing as a true part time role in my field. At this time, I think it is best for me to stay at home and be a more relaxed and happier mum, not answering emails all the time and going on interstate trips.

    I guess its time to have a cull of my business suits and high heels.


 

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