+ Reply to Thread
Page 4 of 6 FirstFirst ... 23456 LastLast
Results 31 to 40 of 56
  1. #31
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Posts
    2,023
    Thanks
    297
    Thanked
    735
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Really? I'm sure the SIL has better things to do with her time than purposely mess with a second tier guest. I'm sorry but the conspiracy theories in this thread are a little ridiculous.
    Why else would she invite them to her 21st and wedding if she has no other contact with them? Screams of gift grab to me. Especially when the op said that her parents are good gifters lol

  2. #32
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    1,106
    Thanks
    128
    Thanked
    949
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I totally read this as it was the OPs brother getting married, so the groom's parents were the ones not returning from the trip, and STILL thought the sil was the unreasonable one.

    With the further info I think that b!tch be crazy!

  3. #33
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    4,002
    Thanks
    583
    Thanked
    1,154
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    My parents were invited to DH's brothers wedding, see no issue and think its nice that my in laws see my family as important too.

    However I think your SIL has gone a bit bridezilla! If she knew the dates then she shouldn't have booked the wedding if she wanted them to return in time. Fair enough if she didn't know the dates she might be disappointed but to expect them to return is way ott!

  4. #34
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Posts
    2,023
    Thanks
    297
    Thanked
    735
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I really wouldn't see any issue in it if they were close generally. But for people she hardly sees, to invite them to two "gift giving occasions" and knowing that they would be away for one of them, it's a bit fishy.

  5. #35
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Posts
    585
    Thanks
    271
    Thanked
    393
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Perhaps no-one is being unreasonable.

    Perhaps SIL asked for the dates of your parents trip to try and accommodate them... But with other things (more important guests, venue availability etc) it just couldn't be worked out. Perhaps she still wanted to invite your parents to be polite, but doesn't really expect them to change their plans.

    I would not blame anyone, it's not as if its important that your parents are there. Stay quiet, let each party handle things gracefully (ie your parents "sorry we can't make it, would have loved to come but changing the flights would have cost too much. Have a great wedding." SIL "so sorry you couldn't make it, I totally understand. I'm just sorry we had to choose a date that didnt fit with your trip.").

    Don't hold a grudge against your SIL as I doubt she did this on purpose (she has more important things to worry about than choosing a date for her wedding for the sole purpose of pi$$ing your parents off).
    This.

    Doesn't seem like an issue at all to me. Sometimes we make an issue out of nothing (I know i can!) so I just wouldn't worry about it at all.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to Qwerty For This Useful Post:

    Starfish30  (26-11-2013)

  7. #36
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    1,426
    Thanks
    497
    Thanked
    1,588
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Neither are being unreasonable. I would think it highly odd if your SIL arranged her wedding so your parents could attend (who after all are no relation to her). People would never get married if they arranged their wedding date around every potential guest.

    At the same time I would not see why your parents would give a gift (particularly a generous one) to someone they hardly know for a wedding they are not attending!

    Maybe a bowl from Turkey would be a good gift

  8. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to NoteToSelf For This Useful Post:

    LoveLivesHere  (26-11-2013),thesmallestmeasure  (26-11-2013)

  9. #37
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Posts
    950
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked
    135
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Your sil is! If she knew their dates, why didn't she just book for the following week???

  10. #38
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Posts
    2,986
    Thanks
    365
    Thanked
    1,517
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I think your SIL is being a brat. I wouldn't expect any of my IL's to invite my parents to their wedding and I certainly didn't invite theirs to mine. I am not even sure I would alter my holiday plans for a IL wedding

  11. #39
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    587
    Thanks
    358
    Thanked
    503
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Really? I'm sure the SIL has better things to do with her time than purposely mess with a second tier guest. I'm sorry but the conspiracy theories in this thread are a little ridiculous.
    I think your conspiracy theory about people in this thread having conspiracy theories is ridiculous.

    The gift grab thing came from information given by the op. It's not like it was just pulled out of the air. Clearly the sil doesn't have better things to do, as she's the one that's making it an issue!!

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to DaenerysT For This Useful Post:

    J0rdy  (26-11-2013)

  13. #40
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    13,067
    Thanks
    9,846
    Thanked
    12,959
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by DaenerysT View Post
    I think your conspiracy theory about people in this thread having conspiracy theories is ridiculous.

    The gift grab thing came from information given by the op. It's not like it was just pulled out of the air. Clearly the sil doesn't have better things to do, as she's the one that's making it an issue!!
    I don't mean to disrespect the OP but I'm betting that wires were crossed and the Op is over reacting. So I still say the conspiracy theories here are bl00du ridiculous.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Am I being unreasonable?
    By Jelly Belly in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 27-07-2013, 17:23
  2. Am I being unreasonable?
    By heartstringz in forum General Chat
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 05-07-2013, 18:41
  3. Am I being unreasonable
    By loodle in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 24-04-2013, 08:13

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Hills Swimming
Swim with your friends and you will all get a 33% discount!* We have programs to suit all ages and abilities, with small classes held in our warm indoor 25 metre pool. Highly qualified teachers, and award winning programs. *conditions apply
featured supporter
Baby Sensory
Baby Sensory is the only baby programme that offers a complete approach to learning & development. Our classes offer an exciting world full of fun sensory experiences for parents and babies to enjoy.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!