Rainbow - thanks for reminding everyone of this as well. I learnt that from this forum too. You've got to question some things to a certain extent and this is one of them re. the "proven donor" and actual details of what that means, numbers etc. Smoking - that was something I just couldn't get over either when I was looking last time. I just saw one before that was maybe worth looking at further, and she smoked 10/day. It put me off. Gosh, maybe I'm been too fussy, young girls get pregnant all the time when smoking... its just we are paying and investing so much for this. So.... I'm having this constant battle all over again as well. And loving it... NOT !
It is so so difficult isn't it. I am just starting to dabble back on the donor websites in search of another donor, and it's not easy. I think it sounds pretty good that you have 2 even! And now maybe a 3rd. I have the same thing, proven vrs non proven. I was only looking at proven the first time. This time, I'm aiming for the same.. but could be dismissing "the one" by doing that. It's not an easy road. As the agencies said to me last time I went through all this "Take your time, its the most important decision, and you have to be 100% happy with your choice" - if only it was that easy, and someone just bounced out at you - saying I'm the one. Done, dusted, excitement kicks in and then you an move onto testing, treatment plans, booking flights and moving closer to your exciting trip of a lifetime and ultimately a precious baby on its way.