Obviously no one can answer this for me but in a similar situation:
I work 2 x consecutive overnight shifts per week (11pm - 6am) and since starting it in July have had lots of different care arrangements for DD each with upside and downsides. Well now a new year is approaching I am needing to lock in what to do next year but I have NO idea. So given the below option which do you think you would pick:
a) Long daycare centre - 20mins away from home, $40 oop per day. Has attended one day per week all of 2013 and likes it but will be moving rooms. Can put her in any days I want/need as long as I pick now.
b) family daycarer - 5mins away and will do pick up/drop offs - $30 oop per day. Attended for about 2months after I got this job. DD LOVES the carer and has friends there however I am a little uncomfortable about the level of supervision and the amount of time DD spent in her car doing other drop off/pick ups.
c) Ask MIL to have her one day per week. 20mins away, lives with her parents who are wonderful but elderly. MIL has a prior history of alcohol abuse and doesnt have a licence due to drink driving... MIL is a good grandmother though.
d) no care at all and just deal with the tiredness by going straight home to sleep after work (foregoing my exercise routine) and getting maybe 1.5 - 2hrs in the morning before DD wakes and then going to bed when DH gets home at 5pm and sleeping til 10pm on the night I have to work.
I dont want the poor child to have to be as moved/unsettled as she was this year so I know I need to pick and stick with it but I really have no idea as we want to save $$ and ttc #2 in 2014
For every option listed there are cons. Option A its the travel when I am tired in the morning and the fact that road in winter can be icy and dangerous. For B Its the what ifs of supervision and car travel. For C its the unreliability of MIL and the burden on her parents. For D its is DD better off going somewhere stimulating and fun rather than spending 2 days with a tired grumpy mum.
What would you pick?
*I should add if I later change my mind option A and most likely B would no longer have spots available