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    bad mummy award goes to me.. 18 years ago I had a newborn and I let him cry for a few minutes if I knew he was fed, dry/clean.. burped etc... I wanted him to learn that I wouldn't pick him up every time he made a noise and to settle himself.... I didn't let him cry for hours or even more than 10 minutes but yes I let him have a cry.... I didn't know anything else so that's what I did...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    bad mummy award goes to me.. 18 years ago I had a newborn and I let him cry for a few minutes if I knew he was fed, dry/clean.. burped etc... I wanted him to learn that I wouldn't pick him up every time he made a noise and to settle himself.... I didn't let him cry for hours or even more than 10 minutes but yes I let him have a cry.... I didn't know anything else so that's what I did...
    Most mum's do this though, a few minutes is a bit different to 4 hours.

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    My DD probably cried for close to that each day in her first few weeks and it was horrible. She had undiagnosed reflux and despite every attempt and a million cuddles she still cried and cried the sound of a newborn crying isn't easy to ignore, anybody that could deliberately let their baby make that horrible noise for hours is far far stronger then me. Hopefully if she has told that advice to a lot of other mums they may have tried it but realized it is completely unnatural to let them cry that long.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    bad mummy award goes to me.. 18 years ago I had a newborn and I let him cry for a few minutes if I knew he was fed, dry/clean.. burped etc... I wanted him to learn that I wouldn't pick him up every time he made a noise and to settle himself.... I didn't let him cry for hours or even more than 10 minutes but yes I let him have a cry.... I didn't know anything else so that's what I did...
    Letting them cry for a couple of minutes and leaving them to cry for 4 hours is different.

    Although now that I think about it, for the first week of his life, my DS probably cried for about 4 hours. It was always at night time when everyone had left the hospital as well, and he's one of the most relaxed babies I've met!

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    What in the actual f!ck?!?!?

    That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

    Aside from the fact that I would be sitting there drenched from milk, as soon as either of my babies cried I had a let down.

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    I cannot believe a medical professional would be giving that kind of advice! What a nutjob.

    My DH always says "just let her cry for a few minutes" about DD2... But I can't. The thing is, if she has been fed, nappy changes, burped etc and is still crying, a cuddle makes her stop instantly so I don't see why I would leave her? I understand though it would be hard if you had a baby with reflux or something and they never stopped... My heart goes out to those mums.

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    I had to let bub cry in the car yesterday while I found a parking spot. Was about 2 mins and I was in tears by the end of it. I won't let him cry any longer than it takes me to meet his need, whatever it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rainbow road View Post
    I had to let bub cry in the car yesterday while I found a parking spot. Was about 2 mins and I was in tears by the end of it. I won't let him cry any longer than it takes me to meet his need, whatever it is.
    Oh god that's the worst isn't it? when DD2 was about 3 weeks old I was driving home from the shops and she screamed for 5 minutes and like you I was in tears. She was doing that horrible scream where not even a lot of sound comes out because she was crying so hard. Worst thing ever

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    Sorry but lol at the old nurse.

    What an odd and dangerous advice to give...

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    Maybe she meant that it can be normal for a newborn to cry 4 hours in a 24hr period or something. .. as opposed to all in one go???
    Seems very strange advice...I don't even think old school nurses would say 4 hours straight crying is okay.

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