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    Quote Originally Posted by FITCHICK View Post
    I'm with river song, I'd be upset I was lied to, but think 3 x 15 yo girls would be okay at home alone for the evening.

    Especially with the means/knowledge to contact someone (like you) if something goes wrong.
    I agree to a point. Only that if these other girls decide to do something not so great in the boy department I doubt they will be calling me about it you know? I just don't know? :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by KaraB View Post
    No I had spoken to her and then 20 minutes later my daughter tells me shes leaving at 6 o clock to drop a curler off for an hour. Then I said ok well I will call at 7 to make sure she's back and that's when she told me the truth that her mother was actually going out all night. The mother hadn't left yet so it wasn't a last minute decision and like I said I spoke to her mother 20 minutes before this conversation with my daughter telling me otherwise. So the mother knew she was lying when I asked her. I'm super annoyed. She spoke to me knowing well that she had plans to be out all night. That suggests to me that she's one of those permissive parents that will give my daughter a wink and happily lie to me on her behalf. I don't like it at all.
    Trust your gut. If all your senses say go get her then do it. At least you won't regret it later.

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    Sorry, I misunderstood your OP and thought your dd went out of her way to let you know that the Mum was going somewhere not that she told you when she had no other choice. I probably would go get her then.

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    If your mummy instincts are going off, go with them. They are rarely wrong. Trust your gut. Go get dd if you think something is amiss.

    I would be having nice words with the mum when you see her next/tomorrow though. Just saying, you picked her up as you were uncomfortable with the situation especially after being lied too.
    That you would have appreciated being told the truth, and if your dd and her friends wanted a sleep over you would have been more than happy to have the girls at your house as you would prefer adult supervision of your dd at that age, especially on a saturday night.


    Oh...eta... Even if I didn't pick her up, I would have this conversation tomorrow with the mum, changing it where needed.

    Im not sure what I would do in that situation tbh, it would depend on my dd, if I felt she was trustworthy/sensible id maybe drop in unannounced, check on them in a few hours and see what was happening. If they were sitting watching movies/doing girly stuff I'd probably leave her there. If something wasnt right id take her...

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    Oh my word. Seriously? Three fifteen year old girls can't hang out for the evening?

    I don't see an issue with the white lie - she was probably just trying to make it so your teenager could actually have fun with her friends. I don't know why your daughter called you tbh. Sounds like she is overly anxious and that's not surprising given that you don't trust her to be in a house with just friends at 15.

    Holy. I'm shocked that some parents mollycoddle their children like this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    Oh my word. Seriously? Three fifteen year old girls can't hang out for the evening?

    I don't see an issue with the white lie - she was probably just trying to make it so your teenager could actually have fun with her friends. I don't know why your daughter called you tbh. Sounds like she is overly anxious and that's not surprising given that you don't trust her to be in a house with just friends at 15.

    Holy. I'm shocked that some parents mollycoddle their children like this.
    It's not Molly coddling it's called being a responsible parent. Because I'm sure if they raided the liquor cabinet i would be held responsible as would the mother of this other girl. Or perhaps that would be ok with you ..

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    I let her stay because I trust her but told her I'm not happy about being lied to by another parent. To be honest if I had known up front I might have been ok with it, but it's the lies that make me wary of the entire situation.

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    I would feel ****ed about a lie, but your daughter sounds responsible and if it were my daughter I wouldn't have an issue with the 3 15 yr olds being alone ( with my responsible daughter).

    Plus hasn't she just gone out for an hour? It's hardly a whole night...

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    Quote Originally Posted by KaraB View Post
    It's not Molly coddling it's called being a responsible parent. Because I'm sure if they raided the liquor cabinet i would be held responsible as would the mother of this other girl. Or perhaps that would be ok with you ..
    Haha. So because I think that 15 year olds can be supervised that means I think it would be ok if they raided the liquor cabinet? Bit of a stretch. Hilarious.

    It's a shame you have zero trust in your daughter. And also accepting of the fact that she absolutely WILL drink at some point whether you mollycoddle her or not (which you are). It's how you approach it and respond to it that's actually responsible parenting.

    For goodness sake she can leave home in a couple of years and you don't think she can be unsupervised for a few hours? God help her when she goes out into the real world.

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    Would they really do that though ( raid the liquor cabinet), I know she is a teenager but why jump to the conclusion that they will do something wrong?

    I'm not condoning the mums actions when it comes to lying, but she was the one that lied, not the girls.


 

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