Mummy Potato (18-12-2013)
Sorry, I misunderstood your OP and thought your dd went out of her way to let you know that the Mum was going somewhere not that she told you when she had no other choice. I probably would go get her then.
If your mummy instincts are going off, go with them. They are rarely wrong. Trust your gut. Go get dd if you think something is amiss.
I would be having nice words with the mum when you see her next/tomorrow though. Just saying, you picked her up as you were uncomfortable with the situation especially after being lied too.
That you would have appreciated being told the truth, and if your dd and her friends wanted a sleep over you would have been more than happy to have the girls at your house as you would prefer adult supervision of your dd at that age, especially on a saturday night.
Oh...eta... Even if I didn't pick her up, I would have this conversation tomorrow with the mum, changing it where needed.
Im not sure what I would do in that situation tbh, it would depend on my dd, if I felt she was trustworthy/sensible id maybe drop in unannounced, check on them in a few hours and see what was happening. If they were sitting watching movies/doing girly stuff I'd probably leave her there. If something wasnt right id take her...
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Last edited by shadowangel0205; 23-11-2013 at 17:08.
Oh my word. Seriously? Three fifteen year old girls can't hang out for the evening?
I don't see an issue with the white lie - she was probably just trying to make it so your teenager could actually have fun with her friends. I don't know why your daughter called you tbh. Sounds like she is overly anxious and that's not surprising given that you don't trust her to be in a house with just friends at 15.
Holy. I'm shocked that some parents mollycoddle their children like this.
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I let her stay because I trust her but told her I'm not happy about being lied to by another parent. To be honest if I had known up front I might have been ok with it, but it's the lies that make me wary of the entire situation.
I would feel ****ed about a lie, but your daughter sounds responsible and if it were my daughter I wouldn't have an issue with the 3 15 yr olds being alone ( with my responsible daughter).
Plus hasn't she just gone out for an hour? It's hardly a whole night...
It's a shame you have zero trust in your daughter. And also accepting of the fact that she absolutely WILL drink at some point whether you mollycoddle her or not (which you are). It's how you approach it and respond to it that's actually responsible parenting.
For goodness sake she can leave home in a couple of years and you don't think she can be unsupervised for a few hours? God help her when she goes out into the real world.
Would they really do that though ( raid the liquor cabinet), I know she is a teenager but why jump to the conclusion that they will do something wrong?
I'm not condoning the mums actions when it comes to lying, but she was the one that lied, not the girls.
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