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    Angry Sleep over- girls parent lied- Annoyed.

    My daughter asked to sleep over her friends house tonight, another 15 year old girl and her other 15 year old friend. I spoke to the girls mother to make sure that she was going to be there and she reassured me and said oh hey, they'll be fine i'm here. Cool right? Thank god my daughter was responsible enough to call me to let me know that this mother is going out from 6 till 7 *apparently to drop a hair curler off at a friends house for an hour?*- huh?? My bull**** detector went off the charts. Firstly why did this girls mother tell me she would be there and then leave them? Why is my daughter telling me and not her- she has my number she knows I would only let her stay with her present. Then I say ok I don't like it but ok, I will call you at 7 to make sure she's back. Then my daughter gets upset and admits that no actually her friends mother intends to be out all night until around midnight leaving 3, 15 year old girls to their own devices. To my mind that's actually more dangerous than one alone because, well I remember being a teenager and that scenario would not have been pretty. I suppose this is just a rant mostly because this mother assured me she would be home and lied to me. It's put me in a position of having to pick my daughter up and she was so happy and excited to be going to stay over. It's embarrassing for everyone involved and just not fair. I'm glad she owned up and for that i'm not going to give her a hard time. But ugh you know? I just know that if she had two girls staying over I would not take the opportunity to go out for the night. I would feel responsible for all of the girls and if anything happened to them when I was out those other parents would be within their rights to be ropable with me. I am so annoyed with this girls mother I won't say anything but I just can't trust that scenario or her it seems..

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    i'd be upset at the lie...but, tbh i would have no issue with 3, 15 year olds being home alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    i'd be upset at the lie...but, tbh i would have no issue with 3, 15 year olds being home alone.
    I also wouldn't have an issue with the girls staying home alone.

    I would feel uncomfortable about being lied to though.

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    I would be upset about the lie too. But I think 3 15yr olds would be ok, and it seems like your DD has some sense by letting you know. If it was 3 12/13 yr olds that would be different. I hated sleepovers with my oldest DS because you never knew what was exactly going on.
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    I'm impressed your daughter called you! I can totally understand your frustrations, especially having teenage stepdaughters. Dsd was meant to be at a friends house so imagine our surprise when we get a phone call to go to the police station! Dsd's friend (not even the one who's house she was meant to be at) was picked up with dsd out and about and very drunk. Her parents couldn't pick her up and they said she was in our care as it was arranged for her to stay at our house the night (Ummm nope!) so the police had us take her because the parents couldn't. I'm not a fan of leaving a group of teens alone together either!

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    I wouldn't have an issue with 3 15yr old girls being home alone for a few hours and your daughter went out of her way to tell you which would indicate that she's pretty trustworthy.

    However, I would be p!ssed at the mother for lying to you. I wouldn't pick your dd up tonight, but most likely wouldn't allow her to stay there again.

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    Yeah I know, I thought about letting her stay but I just don't trust this woman at all and I wonder what this girl is like (her daughter) if she's being raised by a woman who is able to lie so casually under these circumstances. It has me questioning everything. I don't know her daughter at all. My daughter is very impressionable and I have had some issues with her being influenced by some not so great teenage girls not so long ago and some unfortunate internet incidences that have me very nervous about what she says versus what she does. The other thing is the only reason she owned up to the mother being out all night was because I told her I was going to call the mother to make sure- so she knew she wasn't going to get away with it. I guess the bottom line for me is that if something bad happens I am responsible because I let her stay knowing she would not be supervised and for all I know they could be going out god knows where and I have no way of knowing either way. The girl who's house she's at does not look 15 at all- she looks 20 and is absolutely stunning- next to my daughter who is also tall and beautiful ugh scary.. teenage girls are scary I tell you

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    I wouldn't have an issue with 3 15yr old girls being home alone for a few hours and your daughter went out of her way to tell you which would indicate that she's pretty trustworthy.

    However, I would be p!ssed at the mother for lying to you. I wouldn't pick your dd up tonight, but most likely wouldn't allow her to stay there again.
    I agree with this.

    I wouldn't have an issue with the girls being by themselves.

    Did the mum actually lie to you or did this come up during the afternoon? An hour isn't that long to drive to friends place, drop curler off have a quick chat and drive home. Then maybe she decided to stay at friends house for dinner and catch up a little longer to get out of the house because her daughter had friends over?


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    I'm with river song, I'd be upset I was lied to, but think 3 x 15 yo girls would be okay at home alone for the evening.

    Especially with the means/knowledge to contact someone (like you) if something goes wrong.

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    No I had spoken to her and then 20 minutes later my daughter tells me shes leaving at 6 o clock to drop a curler off for an hour. Then I said ok well I will call at 7 to make sure she's back and that's when she told me the truth that her mother was actually going out all night. The mother hadn't left yet so it wasn't a last minute decision and like I said I spoke to her mother 20 minutes before this conversation with my daughter telling me otherwise. So the mother knew she was lying when I asked her. I'm super annoyed. She spoke to me knowing well that she had plans to be out all night. That suggests to me that she's one of those permissive parents that will give my daughter a wink and happily lie to me on her behalf. I don't like it at all.
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