Is it appropriate or not to take young kids (under the age of 5) to a small private family funeral?
I want my children, particularly DD to be at my grandmothers funeral. My Grandmother would want that, they were very close. (even though she wont understand, i want her to BE there).
It will be a small service for 30-40mins, only 4 families.
One family member has said he does not want the great grand kids at the funeral, he see's it as in appropriate, they are too young and "they dont need to be there".
We are sensible parents, we use our common sense. DH will have them under control, stepping out if they become restless, standing up the back, ect.
The rest of the family who have young kids cant find sitters (flying from interstate), and are beyond upset they wont be able to attend their grans funeral.
It has caused alot of upset and i am also in two minds if i am going to upset the one person who dont want the kids at the funeral, but i am in the same boat, no sitter. Everyone else in the family expected the kids to be there.
I have offered for DH to watch them all (4 of them altogether) but i was told the other two kids are quite clingy and wont even go to their dad atm, so it prob wont be of help.
Wondering other's opinions?