I agree with a lot of what she says but I don't like the narky tone in which she writes.
I HATE adverts that have a &quot;busy mum&quot;; as the star role. Are they the only ones who buy stuff? Puts me right off. There was a big hoo haa on here once about the Berlei bra ad with the young thin girls with pert boobs bouncing on balls. Lots of members couldn't believe that they might use models for the ad that didn't truly reflect &amp;quot;real&amp;quot; women aka mothers. Guess what? They weren't trying to cater to your demographic love! They were trying to get the attention of the 20 something with a high disposable income. Not all advertisers give a toss about getting the mummy vote!
And I do think its is societally and economically important for women to stay in the workforce (both for the country and individual finances).
Last edited by kw123; 18-11-2013 at 20:17.
The phrase "get a life " came to mind when I read that. Sorry, but I think the author is looking way too hard into it. I mean to me, when I hear people saying that being a Mum is the hardest job in the world, all they are really saying is "being a Mum is bloody hard!". Also, I also think that whoever wrote the article must have no personal experience in being a single parent or parent to a child with disabilities etc. I think the tune would change then.
Last edited by kw123; 19-11-2013 at 06:11.
My dh & I place a very high value on me staying home with our children for their first few years. It is important for us, but I do agree that it isn't the most important job in the world. My husband getting going to work is of equal importance for us, after all we wouldn't be able to afford the cost of raising our children if he didn't work.
I think Miranda Devine needs to get over her good self. It's a phrase that some people use. Big whoop.
Being a mother of special needs, troubled children etc I'm sure is a damn hard job. I think being a mum or a surgeon etc is a hard job depending on the individual.
What about mothers who have Pnd?
Again just a s$&t stir article.
Asha 26, William 13 months
The tone of the article peeved me off. I cant exactly put my finger on why?
I do agree with a lot of it. Being a mother isnt the most important job in the world. BUT being a good mother, to my children, TO ME is my most important job. And being a father is my husbands most important job in life. Just because he also works in a paid job doesnt take away his 'job' as father. I dont like that she suggests that people are looked at as less of a mother/father if they work. That is certainly not how I look at it.
I am a SAHM with 3 small children under 5. One of my best friends is a working mum with 1 child who is 5.
I am not more of a mother than her. We are both mothers. There is no scale. You are either a mother or you arent? I certainly dont view myself as a better mother just because she works etc. I honestly dont know many people IRL who would hold that opinion...
I think the saying should be parent not mother (because being a Dad is hard work and very important too, as is fostering and all other kinds of parenting), but I also think the author is looking too hard at an offhand type comment. It's a pretty catchy title and I guess it'll garner a fair bit of attention from people looking to defend themselves, yet again, from judgmental commentary.
About the saying in general, I think it is more about raising responsible adults than the day to day "mothering" /domestic type activities (which is pretty easy over all).
I think it can also refer to the 24 hour days, and the responsibilities parenting brings, and also the judgement we all cop no matter how we raise our kids. Add it all together and yes it does make for a pretty demanding "job".
It doesn't specify stay at home parents, but from time to time I do think its nice to get some recognition (even from a toilet cleaning ad lol). Regardless, I think that true feminism is about having the choice to live our lives as we see fit without being forced into roles we don't want. I don't want to be a working mum, I don't have a career and I'm happy that way
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