Stepping in and being the "parent"?
Sil has lived with us on and off since she was 12, and has been living with us this time for 2 years. She is a pretty good kid given her history and the stuff she has been through. My only real issue with her is she constantly steps in and takes over disciplining my 6 year old (occasionally physical but usually just yelling/telling her off).
I have spoken to her several times about it and made it clear that its not her place to do this. But she continues to do so. Even if I am already handling it, she steps in. When I have spoken to her about it she says dd1 makes her angry (even if the misbehaviour isn't directed or involving sil). It's frustrating as hell because it winds dd1 up more which makes sil angrier which makes it harder for me.
I'm not sure how else to stop her stepping in and trying to be the parent? Talking to her just goes in one ear and out the other.
Me + He =
DD1, DD2, DD3 & bun in the oven due May 2014