So without being too long my family has been through a lot over the last 3 years. The latest is my younger brother who has mental health issues attacking my husband verbally. Due to this my husband wants nothing to do with him and wants to protect our family away from him. I support him in doing this as his behaviour was disgusting and hurtful.
Fast forward to Xmas plans my Dad and Mum are divorced only 2 years..Dad says he wants to spend Xmas with us and we agree as we felt he didn't have any other plans. We stipulated that we want Xmas morning to ourselves and then he can join us for lunch at the inlaws. He was happy to do this.
My Dad then goes and arranges a road trip with my other brother bringing him all the way up from Melbourne. He then asks if he can come too. I say yes we are happy to have Dad and my other brother. Then he lets me know he has a wedding to attend in Sydney on the 27th of December and my brother and dad are driving to it... So lunch is late afternoon on the 25th how are they supposed to get from Brisbane to Sydney in one day? My husband is ****ed as he feels as the only reason he agreed to my dad coming as he was on his own he is now going to rush the lunch and leave abruptly which will **** my father in law off as things aren't all cheery since Dad failed to support us properly when my Brother attacked my husband. My husband wants to cancel their attendance to lunch so now I have to tell this all to my Dad. I am so angry as my Dad can never stick to his plans and always changes everything and an never seem to attend anything with us without inviting someone else and complicating the event.
How do I approach this with my Dad...?
Sorry for the vent I am just ****ed that since my parents divorced I am always the one in these situations that gets harassed as I have the family now and always feel like I am sorting it all out for everyone!