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    Default Starting school without going to preschool

    My son just had his first orientation day for starting school next year. I was so proud of him making alot of progress with toilet training in the last month.

    He was left in the kindy room with the other kindy kids and he didnt even hesitate. I was so happy. So I left for the hour information session.

    When I came back he was with one of the teachers. And I asked how he went. She seemed to hesitate and at one stage my son playfully pushed her. I know thats something we now have to work on because she was clearly not impressed. She almost seemed angry.

    So now im really worried. How much is my son going to be behind because he hasnt been in preschool or other child care before?

    He is also telling me to "shoosh" alot since hes come home.

    So Ive gone from being really happy with his progress to completely doubting everything all in an hour.

    As if i wasnt having enough trouble sending my baby to school. Now I feel ive let him down and im bad mum.

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    So what did the teacher end up saying to you? maybe your son was just a bit overexcited?

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    When he pushed her when I was standing there she said "we had trouble with him pushing". I told him to stop and keep his hands to himself and she didnt really say anymore.

    I tried to ask how he went with it all and her response was asking if he has older silblings. I said yes my daughter and she said when he comes to the other two days she will get my daughter in to help with him.

    They had 72 kids enrolled in kindy next year. There were at least 50 kids in the room at the time. He was excited about seeing so many other kids.

    There were a handful of teachers there as well as other older kids helping. It was chaos and she seemed pretty annoyed with my son.

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    So , I'm confused. Is he starting school or kindy? It might be a different state thing.

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    Ah sorry yeh we are in nsw so its kindergarten. He hasnt been in any childcare or preschool.

    In nsw it goes kindergarten, year 1, year 2 etc.

    Today was orientation. Then next Friday he has about 90 minutes in smaller groups as well as the following Friday. These two sessions are transition to school.

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    Oh! That makes sense. I'd ask for an interview, if they don't already do them. Just to chat and see if they think he'll be okay.

    I know of a boy who is at school this year but its been a waste because he wasn't ready.

    Does your son have any other delays other than toileting?

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    No he just hasnt been in that situation before. The only time ive been away from him is when I went away for one week for a funeral. And he doesnt really socialise with kids his own age.

    Hes already 5 and a half. I think I need to work on his discipline a bit more.

    The idea of an interview is a great thank you.

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    Sounds like he'll need to work on his socialization skills. For example a child who has been in a preschool situation learns those skills by default. What's acceptable to peers, what's not. DD will have done 18 m preschool by the time he starts school and he's learning it all now. He'll learn in time. They learn pretty quick what is ok. If you're aware of it and open to the fact there could be issues you're already ahead.
    When is he meant to start? Can you get hi involved with a play group for a bit before he starts?
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    Will he be going full time next year or just 3 days? Kindergarten here is 3 days a week and this year there were several kids in DD3's class who hadn't been to child care or pre-school beforehand. Some kids struggled to start with, but it certainly isn't uncommon for kids to start kinder with no prior experience. Some of them were very hesitant at being left and one little boy was so over excited and boisterous, but they soon learn what is expected of them and what they have to do.

    They are so young and it is a big change for them. The teacher and teachers assistants (they have 2) in the class seem to take this into consideration and we found them to be generally very understanding and helpful.

    I'm sure you little one will settle down once he gets the hang of the whole situation. In the meantime you can always talk to him about no pushing etc. and maybe try and expose him to larger groups of children at parks and play centres etc. Maybe even find a book about the first day of school - I have seen some around.
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    If you haven't got any other concerns I wouldn't worry too much. He will quickly get used to the protocols of school once he's in that environment. If he's used to older kids he probably hasn't been in some of the social situations 5 year old get into (snatching etc) and doesn't know how to deal. It's all learning. They do a lot on socialising at school in the first few weeks.

    I hope the other sessions are less stressful for you. You are a good mum, don't worry about that!

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