So DH reluctantly agreed to a 3rd baby, I got my IUD removed, I was all excited and then bam! First month of trying and he said "no"! He didn't want a third and that was that. No matter what I said to him, he was adamant about his choice.
After all that I was crushed. How could he be the decider of how many kids I have? I just hate that he has the decision.
Anyways, I went on contraception and after nearly 12 months on the pill, I begged him again, he reluctantly agreed, and I stopped the pill a week ago. Now he's got cold feet again! He won't touch me because I might fall pregnant.
I feel so angry at him and I almost consider leaving him but I don't think I would.
His excuses seem exactly that.. Nothing more than petty excuses!
"I don't want to go through the whole nappy changing thing again, and toilet training thing again"...etc, etc... To me these reasons seem stupid!
He also has concerns about finances and I agree, these are valid worries, but I believe everything works out, and our children will always have what they need, and all the love in the world.
What should I do?
Do I try to convince him some more? Do I beg longer?
He never even wanted to have the first baby, but once she arrived he and her (now 5 years old) have been inseparable and he loves his kids to bits. We also have a 2.5 year old daughter which he absolutely dotes on!
I have a feeling in my heart that once we have a 3rd that he will have no regrets and that he will be in-love, and that he'll ever perhaps thank my pushiness, it's just getting him to agree in the first place! HELP