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    Default Child's birthday party. Go for the kids sake? Or not

    My DD2 has been invited to a birthday party this coming Saturday.

    The Birthday girl is my DH's bosses daughter. DD2 and Birthday Girl are friends, although don't see each other a lot.

    Anyway, DH works for a small company, about 6 employees. The Boss, his wife, and other employees and their wives are all friends, socialize a lot, but seem a bit cliquey to me. The foreman at this job has had it in for my DH, and I don't like him one bit.

    Of course this foreman will be at the party, with his wife, and the other employees. My DH is working away, so won't be there.

    Should I go? I don't exactly want to, but I'd only be going for the kids.

    It just feels, uncomfortable. I know a couple of the wives (they are not friendly) but some I haven't met yet. I want to go for my DD2 and Birthday Girl's sake, but, ah I dunno!

    Should I suck it up and go? I was going to arrange to drop a pressie over for the Birthday Girl maybe on Friday, and make up some lame excuse as to why I can't go.

    I am not particularly social and find awkward social situations hard to deal with. I have no doubt I will be mostly ignored by the clique if I go.

    Give me your honest opinons on this please. I am so undecided

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    I haven't had to deal with this myself yet, but I have been to some kids parties (hired entertainment) and what I've seen parents do is drop the kids off, as young as four, possibly three. Because they have other engagements or what ever, come back an hour or so later, pick kids up and go. And from what I saw, it was never questioned, and kids were happy and behaved. Depends on kids and how you feel about that though. Is that an option?

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    Sounds like a pretty crappy situation to be in. Can you go for say an hour or so for DD2s sake and then make up an excuse like we have to go to a relatives birthday party now?

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    I'd suck it up and go. I'm no social butterfly and understand your reservations, but your DD was invited. she'd love to go, so I'd go - it's only a few hours.

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    Yeah thanks Ladies for your advice

    Dreamer1 I had considered that. DD2 is 4.5 years old but really I'd prefer to be there, not that I don't like leaving her or anything, just the circumstances of this situation are different

    CatesBean I was considering that too... I really don't want DD2 to miss out, but I don't want to give fodder to the clique

    Thanks misskittyfantastico, I'll have a good think about it, but might only go for half the time instead of the whole 3 hours. That will be too painful

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    Three hours? That's excessive imo. Most kids parties that we host/go to are two hours max. Although one I went to ended up being five hours and I was so anxious the whole time - I kept thinking where's the freakin' cake!!! I wanna go hooooommmmeee!

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Three hours? That's excessive imo. Most kids parties that we host/go to are two hours max. Although one I went to ended up being five hours and I was so anxious the whole time - I kept thinking where's the freakin' cake!!! I wanna go hooooommmmeee!

    Yeah, the invite says 2.00-5.00pm. And it's only a back yard party, no entertainment that I am aware of. I was thinking if I did go to maybe do 3.00-5.00pm, and that is pushing it lol


 

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